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[–] roux@hexbear.net 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I was doing that during covid and was making like $300 every Saturday at the farmer's market. We have a community market event coming up and I'm thinking about whipping up a batch of kimchi for it actually.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 3 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

I also sort of wanna quit this shit job and get back into fermented veggies and just sell those. I was making quite a bit during covid just selling for a few hours on Saturdays. Midlife crisis mode activated lol.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 2 points 18 hours ago

I sent my 6 months feelers out asking my various groups if they have any leads. An actual Israeli zionist lviing in Israel in my horror movie discord group suggested I use Indeed. My reply was that over the past 3 years I've probably applied to over 1,000 jobs on there but thanks anyway. The guy has had a stable job since day one though and doesn't get fired or quit once every 12-18 months from autistic burnout like me. Must be nice being so successful. But also death to Israel.

I've probably also applied to another 500 or so jobs on the various other job posting sites. No one wants me, and I can't even do freelance correctly since no one wants to pay for a website.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 3 points 18 hours ago (5 children)

Last time I went on vacation I started a business doggirl-tears

But for real though, I kind of wanna give it all up and stop organizing because it's all turning to shit too. I made the joke a billion times but I almost just want to go start a commune away from all the bullshit of being oppressed in a capitalist society. I'm tired, boss.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 2 points 18 hours ago

My only friend in the field is pretty by the book on stuff so probably wouldn't lie if I use him as a reference and stuff. I do have a friend that offered to be a reference but he doesn't know the first thing about tech.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago (11 children)

I'm pretty sure I'm officially in burnout because of work. Last shift, I had a guy take 40 or so stops off of me but still got done when I normally would. Had I not gotten help, I'd have been out until 7pm. That shift was exceptionally bullshit though.

I hate that I've been writing code on and off for 10 years but haven't had a programming job long enough to be worth looking at. I have a portfolio and active github(both linked on my resume) but am consistently getting denied interviews. I just want to make websites because I'm decent at it. But no one local or remote wants to even bother with me. And like, even if I do land a decent paying software job, at this point retirement isn't even an option. I'm now mostly just looking for something that is steady enough to live off of until I die.

I have 4 mobile apps on the Play Store. I have over a dozen websites I've made in the last year, 3 of which are actually live and being used. I'm not sure how big of a portfolio I need at this point to even be considered. I think next week I'm gonna make a fake resume that claims I worked for years at several now defunct companies doing web stuff and see where that goes. Idk. Life just sucks. Ever get the hint that you should just accept your shitty existence for years but still try to ignore it? Not great on your mental health.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 18 points 2 days ago

A combined income of $75k isn't enough to live off of and save for retirement. It's practically a poverty income once you have kids.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What is the amount you interact with the kid, compared to the grandparent? I'm recently learning through my wife via still trying to tackle gentle parenting, that often times, kids will act out for attention. If the grandparent is using YouTube as a babysitter and not engaging meaningfully with them, this might be part of the problem.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 26 points 4 days ago

I do this but it's because I get fired once every 12 to 18 months.

[–] roux@hexbear.net 20 points 1 week ago

You got a ton of answers and they are all right lol. So I'll just say welcome aboard, comrade!

[–] roux@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

Will check this out, thanks!

[–] roux@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

That's actually why it's in my library lol. I grabbed it but never made it to the discussions.

 

Basically the title. I'm involved in a local leftist group that is organizing but the subject on misogyny was brought up because we've had some issues of men in the group talking over the women in the group or dismissing them. A comrade and I are trying to come up withe some texts for education to address this issue but we've both realized this is a blind spot in our theory knowledge. I suggested Caliban and the Witch and The Second Sex but after that I'm kind of drawing a blank.

Any and all suggestions are appreciated as always. Marxist and anarchist texts are both welcome.

Thanks!

 

Is No Man's Sky a good game after all the updates and fixing and adding all the stuff they promised?

I love space stuff but am not the biggest fan of Minecraft style crafting/mining. I don't mind it in Stardew and factory games are a favorite genre of mine, for reference. Basically I like the mechanics but it matters how they are implemented.

I've been trying to find a game that I can just turn my brain off and chill after a long day and right now Stardew is starting to get a bit stale(or I'm just dreading winter since there isn't much to do).

The game looks beautiful and I did spend maybe 100 hours on Starbound, which is like 2D NMS I think, but even on sale, it's at the upper limit I'd like to spend.

The other game is Hyperlight Drifter and it's $6 right now so I'm probably gonna get that one regardless.

Edit: I went ahead and grabbed it. I think my kid will also enjoy watching me play it.

 

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I'm honestly a little bit hesitant to ask this because don't wanna seem like I'm stepping on toes.

So I've been doing some thinking stuff over the last few weeks/months and am starting to question shit.

I've always been cis male presenting and for the most part it's all I've really known, but I'm not in the least bit masculine. Back in the early 00s, the term metro-sexual was a thing and I sort of identified with that but like, meh? Idk. Now that just feels chauvinistic for some reason.

Recently I've been thinking about my own gender identity and although I present as a male, I honestly don't really care. I also have that autism(or is it just ND?) thing where I feel like a being or entity in a human suit basically. Like my inner self is controlling the body that people see me as, which is, of course male presenting.

I've been looking a bit into agender and demigender and hit some of the checkboxes but not really all, but I also don't really know another term for essentially "male body but don't care". A reddit search brought up "gender apathy" and that's a kind of maybe I guess.

The only other conclusion is that I am just cis, but fully aware of it maybe? Like I have a way wider understanding of gender and even sexuality than I did a decade ago so maybe I'm just cis and just not toxic about it? I'm just "woke" maybe?

I guess call this a journal-post but def open for discussion. I'm just going through some heavy mental exploration. I'm not sure if there is even a question here. Just me being confused.

I guess a question could be: how do you know? How do you know where you land on the gender spectrum? Or am I just making a mountain out of a molehill?

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submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by roux@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
 

Long story short but I finally caved and made a TikTok account.

I'm looking for commie and anarchist content creators. Theory bro stuff too.

Oh and any neurodivrgent creators is also a plus. Autism, ADHD, OCD, depression, anxiety, etc. related content would be great.

Any creators you think are just all around chill are also welcome.

TIA.

E: For some reason I wasn't able to follow anyone but logged out and back in yesterday and was able to follow 14 more people before it shit the bed again. Is this a common thing?

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submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by roux@hexbear.net to c/memes@hexbear.net
 
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Intifada - Bambu (www.youtube.com)
 

I'm sort of on a kick lol.

 

I blame comrade JoeByeThen on my newfound obsession over leftist hip-hop.

 

cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/3855446

So I have an interview coming up sometime in the next 2 weeks and I have to do a few coding and SQL problems as part of it. I wanna start practicing now because I've gotten a bit rusty on algs and such. Does anyone have any suggestions on like array sorts and such to work on or like code golf sites to use? I have Leetcode pulled up and will be working a bit through that today but I just wanna get in as much practice as I can leading up to the interview. I donno when the interview will be but I just heard through the grapevine that there will be one.

I've been working on my own webdev stuff but the most I've had to touch JavaScript for is basically conditionals and loops, so I feel like I've fallen down on the other stuff a bit.

TIA

 

So I have an interview coming up sometime in the next 2 weeks and I have to do a few coding and SQL problems as part of it. I wanna start practicing now because I've gotten a bit rusty on algs and such. Does anyone have any suggestions on like array sorts and such to work on or like code golf sites to use? I have Leetcode pulled up and will be working a bit through that today but I just wanna get in as much practice as I can leading up to the interview. I donno when the interview will be but I just heard through the grapevine that there will be one.

I've been working on my own webdev stuff but the most I've had to touch JavaScript for is basically conditionals and loops, so I feel like I've fallen down on the other stuff a bit.

TIA

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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by roux@hexbear.net to c/vegan@hexbear.net
 

I already bitched about this in the vegan theory club cooking discord bub I'm still bent the fuck out of shape over it.

Ok, so my kid's birthday party was yesterday and the last 2 times I wasn't able to eat the cake because it was made with extra helping of animals. I just sat their on my phone and took a few pictures or whatever. I helped with set up and tear down.

We are also going broke because I'm too fucking stupid to hold down a job and after over a year and a half of trying to find a job, we are at the point where I am considering getting rid of the rest of our streaming services and pull our youngest out of daycare. We are barely surviving on a teacher's salary right now.

In the past, my partner has gone all out on our kids' parties but I was working so it was fine. This time, I wanted to try to save money where we could. In the past, my partner would get a cake from a local bakery that costs like $80 and only 1/4 would get eaten and I'd throw the rest away 2 months later because it got forgotten in the back of our garage fridge.

So this year I wanted to kill 2 vegan birds with one stone and make my kid's birthday cake. I could make it for way cheaper and also sub in vegan ingredients.

I buy all the ingredients and plan on making it Saturday. My mother-in-law decides to offer to make a cake for my kid after finding out we aren't spending $80 on a cake. I already bought the ingredients so I politely say no thanks. Because I am saving money, not wasting it. And because I wanted to enjoy cake at my kid's birthday party.

I got up early yesterday, put my earbuds in and threw on some baking metal. To be fair it was a box cake mix and the frosting was also pre-made. I was gonna do this as a test run before autistic hyper-focus takes over and I proceed to deep dive into making the perfect vegan cake. So I mix it up and bake it and do the toothpick test and it comes out clean. I wait for it to cool and frost it and it's good. Life is good. We good.

Well, It was on the softer side of done. My mother-in-law goes to cut the cake and it crumbles. She then proceeds, in front of like 15 people, to tell me that my cake sucks and I should have just let her make it because it wouldn't suck. In front of me, my partner, our kids, our friends, etc. So that's great.

I spiral, because I do that. and I'm still processing it. She seemed like she wanted to go out of her way to make a deal about it because she knows I'm vegan and likes to call it weird or whatever when she can.

I know this is all over a stupid cake but she really could have just laughed it off when it was falling apart instead of slopping it on to everyone's plate like she was a lunchlady in the 6th circle of hell or something.

That's it. That's my rant. I'm mostly just hoping that I could get it off my chest and move on.

I am always looking for recipes so if anyone has a good cake recipe that can adapt to flavors like vanilla or chocolate and such, I'm definitely interested. A tiny caveat is that the cake mix and frosting used palm oil and I'm really trying to avoid that because of how palm farming wrecked the environment.

 

Last week I saw an odd thing on Indeed where I was apparently "already qualified for an interview" for a job posting at a local hospital that I've been trying to get in to for years for IT. I didn't have to apply but just set up an interview time. Well turns out it's actually a "hiring event" which I was informed after a recruiter called and was like "Are you sure you wanted to apply for this? You aren't even A+ certified anymore." You know because you forget how computers work if you let your cert expire even though you've been working with computers for the last 20+ goddamn years and at an IT level for the last 6 but sure.

She asked me if I was willing to re-cert and I said yes but whatever. My Google IT cert which is the same thing isn't worth shit I guess so that's a scam. Thanks Googs...

In any case, if you had half a day to crash study for a stupid fucking IT interview that was the equivalent of a 10 min speed date, what would you brush up on?

I ask because like you literally just google what you don't know. Everyone in the industry knows this, but you can't fucking say that at an interview. Just like when they say "can you tell me about you employment gaps?" you can't say "well you see I was fired from jobs because I am autistic." I already and prepped to lie and say I've been doing freelance IT and web dev in my spare time and that also covers those gaps.

Edit: done with interview. They closed the position on Monday because a guy that quit asked for his job back. I'm going to go kill myself now.

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