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[–] jumbonipples@lemmy.world 2 points 42 minutes ago

My coworker took leave to get back surgery because her back was messed up and she was always in pain.

Now she can hardly walk after massive complications and multiple surgeries.

Anyone I’ve ever met who had a back surgery say that they wish they never did it. It could be confirmation bias on my end.

BUT she told me that she wishes so badly that she would have just pushed through the pain. She was fully functional and working a pretty active job. Now she sits at a desk somewhere part-time.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 4 points 3 hours ago

If you can't do anything about it, and pushing through isn't going to make matters worse.

Or if you know it won't last forever and you can manage it.

Sometimes the only way out is through - like with grief, or childbirth, you cannot get past it without just feeling it.

[–] CrowyTech@feddit.uk 2 points 3 hours ago

My tattoo looks great and I'm glad I didn't research how painful it would be!

[–] PeteWheeler@lemmy.world 0 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Pain is temporary, therefore pain is fine if it leads to long term gain. It is not fine when it leads to long term loss.

[–] Dasus@lemmy.world 0 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Chronic pain isn't temporary though.

[–] PeteWheeler@lemmy.world 0 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Wow, what a great point.

Too bad we are talking about pain and not an extreme form of pain.

Obviously there are exceptions.

[–] Dasus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

"Extreme form".

I don't think you realise how age-privileged your comment is. Chronic pain isn't extreme or even something only a minority of people encounter, oh no. Most people will know what chronic pain is after some four decades on this Earth, be it mild or severe.

So even if it is just mild pain, you can't "push through" it.

[–] mydude@lemmy.world 5 points 11 hours ago

If you're going through hell, don't stop.

[–] Cocodapuf@lemmy.world 9 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

A reason to push through pain? Because you want to get home.

My eight year old complained that his hands were so cold they hurt, so he decided to take his gloves off and lay down in the snow...

I mean, I can't even... Kids are just fucking stupid.

Anyway, I tried to tell him that the only way to really make his hands warm again, was to get back in the car so we could head home. (Obviously my plea had no effect, he just broke down into tears and accusations, seemingly accepting his imminent demise)

The point is, sometimes the only way out is through. Sometimes you just have to keep moving even if the process hurts.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 17 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

Tattoos

Child birth

Someone's counting on you.

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 5 points 14 hours ago

Maybe there will be bacon

[–] TheBananaKing@lemmy.world 8 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Depends on the pain.

If it's joints or ligaments, stop immediately. Coddle the shit out of them.

Muscles, treat them like dirt, get shit done.

[–] mosiacmango@lemm.ee 3 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Quipy, and dead on about the joints and ligments, but bad advice on the muscles.

Go ahead and tear a muscle and then enjoy either surgery or spending months/years waiting for it to heal, same as a joint or ligament tear.

We are resilient in general, but any sudden "treat them like dirt" action can fuck up either. If you want to "get shit done" you need to build to it, grease the groove until your body adapts to the motion.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 5 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Because the baby has got to come out somehow.

[–] venusaur@lemmy.world 5 points 14 hours ago

And your poop. Eat more fiber.

[–] CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.world 8 points 18 hours ago (1 children)
[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 18 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 6 points 17 hours ago
[–] EditsHisComments@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

I currently have femoroacetabular impingements, a torn labrum in my left hip, back spasms, and nerve damage throughout my left leg. For my work, I have to pay bills and rent while medical-leave pay only covers 70% of my income. I can barely save enough as it is, so I keep working.

I've already had one surgery with two more expected, the final one ideally being a new hip. I'll use my personal time for recovery and stretch it out with medical leave as needed, but I can't afford to stop right now. Eventually I want to buy a house and marry my girlfriend.

[–] Kyle_The_G@lemmy.world 4 points 17 hours ago

if its worth it.

[–] kubok@fedia.io 2 points 14 hours ago

Which kinds of pain? As a long distance runner, I have increased my threashold for physical pain and all other sorts of discomfor, so pushing through that kind of pain and other misery definitely paid off.

[–] rc__buggy@sh.itjust.works 3 points 16 hours ago
[–] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 3 points 17 hours ago

If I know it's a stomach cramp, but I'm not done my work out or on my bike.

[–] libra00@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago

Two reasons.

  1. Because you don't get what you want out of life by running from pain, you just have to embrace the suck.
  2. Because I've had chronic back pain for the past ~20 years and there's nothing my doctors can do about it, my only alternative to pushing through the pain is to make myself unable to feel pain anymore, and despite the pain I still quite enjoy life.
[–] Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 0 points 17 hours ago

Life has its ups and downs. When you have pain, you’re in the down. Look forward to the up at some point after.