Reflect at your own pace, not others'.
At my workplace, there is a line in one of the recent community letters which says "Marcus Aurelius valued input, but his decision was final."
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The best self, the parts you want to develop but don't, for fear of people not liking or supporting that.
Be yourself = live true to your own principles
Try to change = better yourself to get closer to those principles + other secondary goals
Improving yourself can, of course, mean finding better principles to live by, as that may be where the problem was in the first place.
You aren't changing everything about you, just the parts that need changing. Like remodeling the interior of a house, it may look completely different when you are in the process and when you are done but the structural parts of you are still there, holding up and protecting the new you.
Odds are you didn't chsmge every room or the general layout either, just made some adjustments so you are more functional.
it is a socially acceptable^tm^ phrase that politely means "you know what best for you, bro so do yourself a favor"
also means the one offering help admits they don't know the real you and respects what you want for the better.
Did you bring anything that you made yourself or did it all come from somebody else...