Smart, being beautiful would just get attention from boring people
this post was submitted on 04 Jan 2025
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But if you're not smart then those would be your people.
I don't want to be boring
The only people you fool are other stupid people though.
That's cool though, there's so many of us that you'll never run out of fools to dupe.
Why so many people think being smart means getting phd's and good job/money?
Good job, phd's require discipline not smartness and often being attractive gets you better confidence/charisma, thats far far more important for getting good money or recognition than smartness
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I think being intelligent gets you better jobs and more money sooo π€·
Being intelligent doesn't let you bypass rules one and two, or at least rule two for jobs specifically.
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I'm studying engineering, so i'll take smarts, we all know that anyone in this field ends up bald by some mystical force anyways
Too real. In the middle stages of my career I am fighting a losing battle against this plight.
I mean slightly below average is not bad attractiveness wise. Less hassel to some degree, especially if your a woman. below average intelligence though can really hamstring you. Intelligence all the way. Doesn't say gorgeous though or genius. sounds to me like I would basically be asking for the genie to do nothing based on my academic achievements and dating lack of achievements.
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My intelligence makes me depressed, so beautiful.
As someone with below average intelligence I can tell you it really doesn't. Trust me, having a low intelligence doesn't make your life easier it just makes it harder and puts you at a massive disadvantage. It's the most soul crushing experience there is. You can become beautiful but intelligence is forever, be thankful for what you've got.
Why am I forced to downgrade if it's a genie wish?
Sometimes it do be like that.
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I am lucky enough to already be both, so I don't have to choose, thank you very much.
Appreciate the offer but no thanks.
If I'm very smart, I could just use my intelligence to make money and then get beauty surgery.
That's not how any of that works.
Am already both so...
Intelligence, easier to figure out how to improve my attractiveness and deal with complex problems in general than trying to get smarter.
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i'm already dumb and cute, take a hike genie
Beautiful.
Long Covid and Myalgic Encephalomyelitis have noticeably lowered my IQ. It's a terrible feeling to be more stupid and know that I normally could do better.
So give me intelligence every day. Physical attractiveness can only go so far.
I feel this to my core. I had a pretty successful career in army special operations, which ended after ten years with a few years of extremely heavy drinking, which ended with me getting out of the army and getting boatloads of mental health treatment, which is ongoing.
When I was at my peak, though, my most prize characteristic was my intellect. Now, though, my short term memory is measured in seconds, my working memory is like five digits at most, I forget words many times per day, and there's many more examples.
It's been absolutely crushing to remember such high performance, but be incapable of it now.
I am the most intelligent person I know. So naturally I would choose intelligence, because christ do I need perspective if that's what I actually believe
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Being smart has only gotten me anxiety. I'll go with attractiveness.
If I'm that smart maybe I can work out how to make myself beautiful too.
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Beauty I guess, intelligence doesn't make a damn unless you're brave, lucky, or born well
You could be Hermann Rorschach or Hedy Lamarr, and be both!
That guy really looks like Bradd Pitt
Hermann looks like a Hollywood actor
Those people definitely aren't below average attractiveness.
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Ignorance is bliss.
Smarts.
Smart. Pretty, dumb people get taken advantage of. Besides, I'm already unattractive, might as well give me something after making me go through high school π
What is the definition of 'beautiful', here? Do I get to decide, or is it up to the genie's interpretation?
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Smarter.
But I feel like I already have both. At the same time I feel like I have nothing od them both.
Especially because only a selection tells me that I look very attractive. I get more compliments from males when I dress like a female for Halloween while I am hetero. But mostly I feel like its not true because many people just accept my presents. But maybe they only accept me because I dont look unattractive.
So choosing attractiveness leads to better social connections which I rely on.
The intelligence.. I feel dumb as fuck often times because simple tasks are difficult for me or getting a focus in general. But I get compliments of being smart as fuck, especially when they see how many peogramming languages I can write in or see the projects I created or I was creative on.
Still, I guess this is the sideproduct of being too intelligent. That being too intelligent with Asberger and ADHD results into not being able to do simple tasks. I feel like the word "dumb" is just a question of perspective, because i am dumb in too many simple things, except its about a topic I love like Computers, electronics or Math sometimes.
So the question arrises. When I choose being intelligent. Would I be able to be Intelligent in tasks which people with lower IQ (I guess dumb?) can easily master? And at the same time also in tasks which only people with higher IQ can master? (Idk my IQ btw, could be both high or low. I really dont know)
Also, would I be able to still connect with people with the intelligence because I would have a high Empathic Intelligence? I noticed that the Higher the IQ of someone is, the lower their EQ will be. Making them a bit Egoistic and unhandsome.
Its a complex topic with many questions
Smart... Looks good away but intelligence is forever.
How about slightly below both but with some solid executive functioning and 0 mood disorders? I'll take that.
I'm an introvert so I'm going for very intelligent.
I thought I blocked this shit hole instance a couple days ago. Apparently it didn't work. Time to add them again!
Why do you keep coming back, OP?
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