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Here's to a new year! Here's my first mega try (also first time posting in a while due to reasons) but heya! Admittedly struggled a fair bit with self doubt and anxiety on this one as put it off for a while/other things caught up with me but I figure I'll be glad I did it once I've done it. It's kinda being done last minute though, so admittedly there's that...

I'd been intending to make the mega about something else originally when I signed up, but that would require more time on my part (and I just binge read this recently, so it all works out). Anyways, my subject of the week is The Summer Hikaru Died; it's a queer (BL) horror manga which is currently also scheduled for anime release next year (2025).

Content warnings naturally follow and further details will be spoilered.

CONTENT WARNINGSGrief, body horror and (very debatably IMO) mild gore, supernatural horror (ghosts/"impurities", otherworldly entities), death I suppose though that one's a given

PremiseThe titular Hikaru went for a walk in the woods, died, and something came back wearing his body, something that doesn't quite know how to be human or mortal; "Hikaru" returned, to ensure that his best friend, Yoshiki, would not be lonely. Romantic tension (and tension of a less pleasant kind) ensues.

The plot/things I like about it thus far (light spoilers)Yoshiki and "Hikaru" have an absolutely great dynamic- their relationship may not be fully healthy, but their intentions seem to both be in the right place, as are their deep feelings (Yoshiki's for Hikaru and increasingly for "Hikaru," and Hikaru and "Hikaru's" own true feelings) and honesty in this regard, despite the latter "Hikaru" being effectively an imposter of sorts. (it's complicated, but these are increasingly distinguished separately and I really like that process as well)

"Hikaru" is, while not quite a blank slate, extremely new to the concept of even just "being" in the sense that mortal creatures and individual organisms(?) do. They've had to learn (and Yoshiki has had to confront them about) the value and significance of life and death; they've increasingly established boundaries, and they approach the world with a liveliness and curiousity that is really cute (the original Hikaru was also lively FWIW, but "Hikaru" is experiencing everything anew even if they retain the memories).

Yoshiki, on the other hand, is both grappling with his grief and loss of Hikaru, while finding comfort (and discomfort alike) in his imposter, and in guiding them through a new world or state of being. He's finding his resolve and moral/ethical backbone interacting with "Hikaru" (very blue-and-orange morality dynamics, though they're learning), he's experiencing what could be described as a rocky but determined romance and queer experimentation at the same time "Hikaru" is being introduced to notions of attraction and desire (beyond instinctual desire to consume).

Their pairing in so many ways should not work (or rather would be usually destined for a tragic end). From the start, there have been several points where by all means it should have met such an end. But their determination and willingness to meet the other where they're at and gradually be understanding with the other is both fascinating and something I'd feel optimistic for (and interested in seeing play out further).

Anyways, I should cut myself short at this (and make sure to have something properly written beforehand for next time). But anyways, thus far it's a strong recommend (if you feel alright with the content warnings) from me.


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[โ€“] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (7 children)

2025 we're saying beep. spread the word (beep)

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[โ€“] Tommasi@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

animal violenceOne of the dogs managed to catch and kill one of the mice that lives in the garden and I'm devastated, I loved those little guys doggirl-gloom (also 3 people so far have told me stuff like that just happens and I KNOW, but that doesn't make me not sad)

[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Hey, so who can tell me about the term "doll"? I've only seen it in usernames basically, so if it has any connotations or functions they are lost to me.

[โ€“] yoink@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (3 children)

gonna respond here instead of on the week+ old post you replied to

contrary to the other user, I've only ever seen it used by younger trans women, especially on TikTok and Instagram - and while there are connotations of 'pretty' or 'cute', there are also connotations of 'toy', 'plastic', 'fake' and so on, which often reads to me like an attempt to try and 'defang' the idea of being a trans woman. I only saw the term start to pop up from around 3 or 4 years ago, and I've seen more 'millenial' trans women start to take it on now in order to try and feel relevant to the younger trans crowd.

If you want examples of stuff like this, pretty regularly I'll get served videos that are some variation of 'when he says he's not gay but he's never tried a doll' or 'dolls are more fun than real women', which both are pretty fucked ways to go about things, and are just one example of why that term regularly leaves a bad taste in my mouth, but even without those the term still doesn't sit right with me. Like I said in the rest of that thread you replied to, it feels like an attempt to leverage a bit of internalised transphobia at the hopes of being accepted by a cishet populace. I understand that this isn't what you've personally seen, but honest to god this is what keeps being sent to my for you page, what I keep seeing pop up in comments, what I hear IRL.

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[โ€“] anonochronomus@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Hello my lovelies! It's been a MINUTE since my last post, and I have been SO DAMN BUSY. All good things, though. So I guess it's STORY TIME, short story long;

I got sober in September. For real this time. I used to smoke crack and shoot dope. I haven't done that in over two years but I just COULD NOT SHAKE alcohol. I'm a genetic alcoholic, big time. What that means is my brain makes its own opiates when I drink. So when I drink, I don't want to get fucked up. I just want a sip. It took me a long time to figure that out. 10 years actually, it's been 10 years since my first interaction with addiction treatment and I finally got it. Feels pretty good.

Anyhow, since my judgement wasn't clouded for the first time in my life, I was able to honestly evaluate my relationship with my family and HOLY SHIT ARE THEY SICK. Both parents and two sisters check ALL THE BOXES for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. They're FUCKED UP PIECES OF SHIT. Thats what us in AA like to call a miracle. I was able to see something that I was blind to my entire life. No one could have showed it to me but God. Anyhow, I called the pigs on them and reported them as domestic abusers and got my skinny bitch ass outta there so eat shit fuckers.

I'm back in the city, the most radical neighborhood in Amerikkka (if you know you know) amongst my people! THE QUEERS AND COMMIES sicko-fem

I took a Shahada so I'm officially a Muslim now. It's so cool. The dudes who run the smoke shops in my neighborhood are Houthi, so I've been hanging with them and they're COOL AS FUCK. Real recognizes real.

Oh yeah, last thing; I found out my Grandfather was involved in Real IRA activities during the troubles. I don't know EXACTLY what he did, but I'm pretty sure he was INSTRUMENTAL in getting arms back to the old country during the Troubles. He got out of the life around the time I was born, and my name was changed after the Good Friday agreement to keep the feds off my back. My birth name is as Irish Republican as it gets- I cant tell you what it is for opsec reasons but I can tell you what it means, and if you want to do the research to figure it out that's on you;

I AM THE FIRST MARTYR FROM THE BOG.

How about that? I'm REAL IRA. Nothing provisional about me, boyo. I'm the real thing. The realist. They know my name in Dublin and Belfast, all along the falls road and on the road to Al Quds. I'm a Martyr just like my ancestors. I was BORN to bring death to Amerikkka, MASHALLAH.

I love every single one of you SO FUCKIN MUCH!!! This is a really special place, and I'm so glad y'all were here when I needed you.

Love and Solidarity,

Alice D. heart-sickle

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[โ€“] MoonElf@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

๐Ÿฉต๐Ÿฉท๐Ÿค๐Ÿฉท๐Ÿฉต

I love you ๐Ÿซถ

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[โ€“] PaX@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

My mom started using my non-deadname without me even asking :O

She still uses the other one in a lot of contexts still (talking to friends about me) but it was still really, really nice to see especially after she was so dismissive (read: transphobic) when I started talking to her about my transness initially

I haven't rly talked about it with her like... in-depth and seriously yet but stillllll

Uhhh amerikkka is a land of contrasts or something

Have been so surprised by her recently, she's even been getting into left politics recently. Some of it is Trump derangement syndrome but like, she's using my name now without even asking and we've been talking seriously about communism and anti-imperialism for the first time in my life. She has even expressed wanting to get involved with some kind of left organization (I haven't recced her a communist party or something quite yet lol). People can actually change, there has to be hope for all of us

Maybe part of it is I am actually quite okay at talking communism (without even saying that word hehe) with people now lol, a lot of it is cuz of this site besides reading more and spending a little time (not enough) in orgs

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[โ€“] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Gotta love being hit by my usual late night emotionalness right when I'm about to sleep so I can't sleep and then get even more emotional about not being able to sleep

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[โ€“] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

dieting, weight loss2025 is the year I make it to 8 stone. doggirl-thumbsup

Seeing number go down after completely stagnating over the holidays is kind of giving me a high. doggirl-sweat

[โ€“] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

yes I used stone, Iโ€™m in ingoland now

[โ€“] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

yes oi yewsed stohne, oim in jolly ol' inglend now mate!

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[โ€“] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

finally got around to blocking c/doomer but god dammit any hope i had in me of tonight getting better is gone. everything fucking sucks again and i only feel pain. i got misgendered more times than i could count at work today after putting all this effort into my voice and now i have to desperately try not to buy another bottle of piss cheap vodka about it

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[โ€“] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Was going to say something, but I'm doubting my own doubts in what amounts to some sort of sick paradox. I hope I'll be able to be more active again soon, on both here and tracha, but COVID has taken away any energy I would have had to speak, and I quite literally can't bring myself to do it.

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[โ€“] ashinadash@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Feeling exhausted and hateful and bitter and angry and weirdly isolated and just, what the fuck is the moon or whatever doing that's fucking with me at this time of year? I hate absolutely everything except for Dragon Quest.

If you're all very lucky maybe I'll post about Mice Tea sometime soon.

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[โ€“] bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

sat on my glasses but i've recently learned how to do diy readjustments (take that optometrists maddened) so they're all fixed!

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[โ€“] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Not first, sucks.

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Spin class but we all bring out our beyblades kirby-spin

[โ€“] nemmybun@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Can anyone who's already in 2025 tell me how it is? I think I'll just stay in 2024 if the vibes are off

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[โ€“] Eco@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago

i'm sure there's still an original concept to be found in the "mascot horror" genre. maybe another few thousand games and we'll get it

[โ€“] buh@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

listening to all the saddest songs in my collection to hype myself up for HRT appointment #0

[โ€“] buh@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

it went okay.... I'm getting labs done in a couple weeks and if it goes well, they will prescribe patches

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[โ€“] Yukiko@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Work sucks and no one should have so many meetings in one day. Especially over inane stuff that doesn't need handled in a Zoom call. Just let me do my job. aubrey-angry

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[โ€“] Eco@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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Fucking great! Iโ€™m sick again for the second time this month. Another week of eating baby food, I guess? catgirl-flop

[โ€“] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

alright. time to once again try my hand at not being the most terminally single bitch on earth, just bought a ticket to a queer speed dating night

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