idk, i'm disabled in such a way that i will likely never be able to drive, but i'm lucky enough to be able to know that my family would fuckign never speak about me that. theres a difference between "lerios can't drive, yeah no hy has some trouble with motor control" vs "my low IQ faildaughter is confident and qualified but will definitely explode my car and is too stupid to realise it" - and there is a massive fucking difference between saying that sort of shit to like family friends vs saying it to some random freaks on reddit.