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obviously no i wouldnt question nonbinary folks in the same way, nor gender fluid folks nor agender folks nor any other gender identity. are you saying being a sissy or crossdresser is a gender identity in itself? that really isnt how its been presented by them since they often identify as men. its presented as only a fetish, which isnt the same as gender identity at all, any more than being a sub, dom, or cuck is. it evokes the fetishization of trans women and plays into it, which makes me kind of uncomfortable because i dont really want to be fetishized.
i can feel this turning into a shit throwing semantic argument where we talk past each other and get nowhere. at the end of the day i dont understand sissies and crossdressers, so unless you want to explain their feelings to me i would prefer not to be attacked.
Sissy in particular likely stems from the social taboo of not performing to your gender's role, it's just a form of humiliation kink. Might be more common in closeted/egg transfems because it's a somewhat safer way of being feminine in a context, it just happens to be sexual.
And crossdressing is a super wide term anyway but in a sexual context I'd think it's just roleplay
I genuinely don't know if those are gender identities. The world is a big place so I would guess to at least some people they are. I really don't think I'm qualified to draw the line between fetishizing one person's identity or kink-shaming another though so I can't speak to any of that.
I don't have any interest in talking past each other or attacking you or arguing semantics. I just figure there's room under the rainbow for all kinds, so I just try to ask questions and share my limited perspective when I don't fully understand something.
If you're good here, that's totally fine and I wish you all the best 🙂