From a pretty early age I decided I didn't want to get married or have kids cuz both my parents seemed utterly miserable. For a long time I found it weird anyone wanted to do it at all, why would you want to be trapped with someone you hate who you get into screaming arguments all the time?

And it's not just me, you see a lot of jokes online about people like playing that one scene from Marriage Story while playing old N64 games for nostalgia.

I think the experience of seeing our own parents be so miserable maybe soured a lot of us on starting families.

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[–] Collatz_problem@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago

The family in traditional agrarian societies functioned as a smallest unit of production. Marrying for love was seen as "good as an ideal, but mostly unrealistic in practice" both in lower and upper classes. And kids were basically free labor for peasants. And monogamy wasn't universal over the world, and even where it was dominant, it often had plenty of holdovers from the group marriage.