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[–] mrmaplebar@fedia.io 67 points 12 hours ago (5 children)
  • Plenty of people lose their virginity in the 20s and later, even if it's not talked about much. Try not to worry about it. Nobody is going to judge you. My current girlfriend and I were both older than you when we lost ours.
  • Virginity is a social construct and (assuming nobody gets pregnant or a disease) you'll find that not much will change in your life once you lose it. I understand the FOMO, but being on the other side of it now I can tell you that it's not really worth having FOMO over.
  • Odds are you could find somebody to have sex with if you were really truly desperate. But you're probably not that desperate, and nor should you be. Masturbation is significantly better than bad sex with some you don't care about.
  • Online dating apps generally suck and aren't a great fit for most people, let alone one-size-fits-all. If you want to avoid the dating apps, I recommend finding other ways to put yourself out there and expand your social circle. Touch grass and get some hobbies. Do your best to make plutonic friends and see if that introduces you to people who you might want to ask out.
  • If you have someone you want to ask out, then ask them out!! I spent too long letting shyness and fear of rejection block me from making moves, but we're much better off just going for it. Rejection isn't guaranteed, nor will it kill you if it happens.
[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

Do not make plutonic friends, or any other trans-uranic friends for that matter. It won't be good for you.

[–] Rusty@lemmy.ca 5 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Plutonic relationship is created by solidified molten magma, according to my geologist friends.

[–] evergreen@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago

What about a ring of saturnic friends?

[–] uniquethrowagay@feddit.org 25 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I was almost 30 when I first kissed someone, had sex, fell in love. She's the first and will hopefully be the last and I wouldn't change a thing. (Except I should have gone to therapy 10 years earlier)

[–] Bazell@lemmy.zip 4 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Your last sentence raises some rather interesting questions...

[–] sirimeow@lemmy.world 8 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Like what? Wishing they'd got help for their mental health earlier isn't that strange.

[–] Bazell@lemmy.zip 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

This can be interpreted as a complicated joke about that his mental health got so bad, that he hallucinated it all and still single and so on. His quote just needs some clarifications that will make sure he isn't joking.

[–] uniquethrowagay@feddit.org 1 points 3 hours ago

Oh, yeah I wasn't joking. I had been depressed and anxious since puberty and didn't really understand that (because "that's just how life is, right?") until I developed actual panic attacks and started therapy. Turns out I'm also autistic and have severe ADHD and that I'm not the lazy loser I thought I was. Therapy also enabled me to access and process my feelings a lot better, which helps me be a good partner. I simply wasn't ready for a relationship before all that.

[–] Zwiebel@feddit.org 12 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

I love my plutonic friends, but I'd love to have some plowtonic friends as well

[–] meekah@discuss.tchncs.de 15 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

Masturbation is significantly better than bad sex with some you don’t care about.

Absolutely, had to find out the hard way. I do not recommend.

Great reply all around