I can't speak for others, but I think the push for recognition, from some people, comes from the fact that a lot of us will never be able to fully transition socially and will lead two separate lives, four our entire live. And while Aarons case is not my case and I won't speak for the dead, it is understandable from my point of view that people would wanna bring up the fat that the person may have been trans, it would be nice if I can at least get my real name on the gravestone if I can't get it during my life.

But at the same time, a lot of us understand that we are completely irrelevant in the eyes of majority of the world so I won't split hairs over it. I'm just trying to make sense of why people are stressing the name/gender so much and, at least in my personal opinion, it's because a part of us would think it's kind of neat we at least get named by our choosing. Plenty of trans people will never get called by their name anywhere outside of the internet. I haven't and it's been a decade.