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I think a lot of men genuinely pick bad ways to take nudes. There's "mid pic", then there's "pic from a really bad angle with bad lighting", and especially dick pics tend to be the latter.
Honestly, no doubt there's truth there, as I think a lot of guys focus on making their dicks look big because from a typical straight(... actually gay too) guys perspective on sex, like thinking about sex from a mans perspective as if you were a woman, its like, you gotta make the lightning rod spark. Like the weight of the dick is elevated much more than the types of shit women want to see more of, like a lot of veiny-ness (which I think I can speak for the average man in saying, we generally don't like on women (I think gay men differ from men here)), that brooding batman style of posing, the arms, forearms, and some chest hair, a confident and slightly domineering position, etc. Heck, I'm probably even somewhat wrong there.
I do think women tend to do this quite a bit as well, with all that weird duck lip, hand under chin, Victorian era poses, theatre kid coy, kinda "Sappho and her friend" leaning photos where to a lot of guys its like, Eyyy, show off all of that thing (where that thing is honestly a lot of things), or give me some "Ill be like this for you [sir/daddy/baby/pet/insert favourite pet name]".
I dunno. It just all feels like I think people find it hard to conceptualize what the other person is truly looking for out of a photo because despite being into each other, people don't really share their photo preferences in particular, and you can't even necessarily transfer what you know about the other person in bed to what they'll think looks good in a photo because the scenario is so different.
That being said, I really do think most pictures from both, dare I say all (to be more inclusive), tend to still ultimately, on average, be just mid.
Like no one is opening up their curtains, buying diffuse lighting, taking a hundred different shots, story boarding their angles, making sure all the money showpieces are hairless, or appropriately and perfectly haired or whatever it is for whoever it's intended for, dehydrating to lean up, etc.
Like, to get nice photos, you basically have to become a NSFW content creator without the monetary incentive, and that's a lot of work when the other person probably appreciate that time a lot more in person.
Dicks are just ugly. Is there a good dick pic?
Rip my inbox. Im interested in girls
Don't mind if I do! This isn't me obviously, it's from my wank bank:
Spoiler, NSFW
Don't ask me how he even took that photo, though. I'm not positive that this is actually a selfie, rather than a photo that was staged to sort of look like a selfie. Either way, IMO it's a good dick pic. It's a great angle to show off both his dick and his bod, and he even uses his hand to cover the balls which IMO are the uglier part of male genitals.
That's one fine looking cock.
Broadly speaking about straight men and women sexting, I think a lot of it falls on men not knowing what their partner may want to see.
A lot of male nude selfies are so bad, though, it shouldn't be that hard to see that ... and why are women better at determining what men want, anyway?
Because we live in a patriarchal society in which men are raised knowing what men are 'supposed to' want and women are also raised knowing what men are 'supposed to' want because it reinforces existing social hierarchy.
Someone should write a guide with specific and examples.
Your best bet might be to ask your partner! This is likely something that varies wildly person to person.