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[–] Lurkmore@hexbear.net 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

This was me for a long time. I was a man because thats what people told me i was. I didnt feel like a man, i kept chasing social markers in the hopes that "oh if i have this social marker (e.g. a beard) then ill feel like a man". But thats not how it works. As far as i can tell, men feel like men because they are men. I wasnt a man so i didnt feel like a man. I felt like a weird not-man-but-cant-say-woman-for-some-reason thing.

I've always felt so alone for feeling this way. Thank you for your kindness. I don't know how to be myself. I've always been trying so hard to be what other people tell me I'm supposed to be.

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It takes a shit ton of effort to focus on making other people happy, so much that it can obscure what actually makes US happy

[–] Lurkmore@hexbear.net 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I don't know what makes me happy. I don't know what I want. My whole life has always been about everyone else.

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 4 points 2 months ago

You are mirroring my exact thought process for about 10-15 years. It’s only in the last week I’ve felt like I’m finding a goal, a future, where before I spent basically my whole life searching for people and things to distract me from the empty void. I coped by being self sacrificing and saying I was doing everything for others, but it never went away. Feel free to dm if you want to talk more