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[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 50 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Better yet, ask them what feels good, and establish communication of pleasure. Your partner, regardless of genitals, will have a better time, and so will you!

[–] Damage@feddit.it 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

That only works if they actually answer. Sometimes it's just easier to gauge reactions.

Sometimes they can't talk coherently *wink wink*

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Communication doesn't need to be verbal - and I'm more talking about setting the precedent for communicating about pleasure as a practice. Being able to communicate about pleasure takes you a lot further in mutual pleasure than having a "trick", yknow?

[–] Damage@feddit.it 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah well, you said to ask, while the actual point is "listen" (and "feel"), that is what I meant

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Well, even if the other person doesn't communicate their answer verbally, you can ask verbally :) it is the most direct way to establish an open pathway for communication.

[–] Damage@feddit.it 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah my problem in the past has been that they may be embarrassed to answer or just not know what to ask for

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 2 points 2 weeks ago

For sure, but that's kinds the point in a way, you identify that communication is an issue and you can work on it :3

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

Completely agree. Communication is the basis of all good relationships and interaction, especially intimate interaction.