Y'know, when I signed up for this back in June I had grand plans for some grand writeup on the domestically produced unmagnified gunsights of Cuba. I had collected images and info and sources but I lost sight of it as life stuff happened and my time for the trans mega snuck up on me.
Que sera sera.
Anyways, today felt like the first whisper (you have no idea how hard I just thought about the ideal word for this metaphor) of autumn and that put me in the mood for one of my favorite autumnal albums. More Constant Than the Gods by SubRosa is a really lovely doom? sludge? metal album. I like how big it sounds. The lead vocalist is a really talented lady, and its got violins, also the lyrics talk about dying and stuff and I'm into that. Its very fall-y to me, as is Standard Time Volume 1 by Wynton Marsalis, but for extremely different reasons.
The funny thing is that, like the poster of the previous mega it is also my 5th transiversary, I started HRT half a decade ago today (ok technically it was the 17th but I'm gonna count it since thats when I started writing this). Now, I don't think that taking HRT was what made me "officially trans", rather it was the degree of self acceptance required to get to that point. It's a long story, and one I prefer to share privately, but it took a very, very long time before my fear and desperation gave me the strength to allow myself to have this. I think it all turned out pretty well, I experience existence in much higher fidelity, I'm this whole person, along with everything that entails.
I feel very blessed to be transgender.
I hope you all stay safe and have a good, or atleast tolerable week.
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I have a new friend who is a cis woman who I’ve known for a few months. She was discussing with another new female friend of mine, how they’ve not shaved their legs for winter. I said oh I haven’t either but I’ve done laser and showed my legs under my skirt that had only some patchy hairs. both were like wow that’s less than I’ve got, we should try that etc
I also mentioned that finasteride, spironolactone, estrogen were all helping reduce my body hair too, as well as increasing my long thick head hair. The friend revealed she knew about those medications because she had alopecia that affected her head and presumably her long feminine hair is a wig (I wasn’t gauche enough to ask).
And I was like huh, I’m always comparing myself to cis women for my body issues, but cis women have their own body issues and battles going etc. We’re all subject patriarchal standards of beauty and femininity etc
Which has really helped a bunch of my brainworms
I KNOW!!!
One shift I was on, every other woman didnt have a uterus and was on the same exact meds I was for HRT!! Its so common
Good post o7
The more women you meet, trans or cis, as a woman, the more you realize that we've got everything in common. Sexgender is built and maintained through coercion and violence.
Cis women also have to deal with facial hair
My new friends are Italian so that's come up
I've read that some cis women learn a lot about bodily upkeep and maintenance from trans women, because trans women have to learn it from scratch as teens or adults, whereas cis women are just expected to know everything. Not universal and completely anecdotal but I thought that was some nice solidarity.