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How do you talk to people when you're alone at a bar? I feel like it's easier when you're with other people because they give you credence. But when you're alone I'm afraid people will see you as just another loner.
I'd recommend sitting at the bar for a start. I work at a bar and usually when strangers talk to each other they're at the bar. It would probably be considered rude to sit at a table with a group of friends.
A great way to find common ground is to share negativity with someone. By that I mean, if you're from the same place or work a similar job and can make fun of something everything thinks is bad. Like talk about how roadworks are annoying or customers are stupid. But keep it jokey, don't just be miserable. Exaggerate, say roadworks caused your divorce or you should be allowed to dunk annoying customers into a vat of acid or something.
if there's a tv people around me will often start a conversation based on stuff that's on the tv. as long as someone isn't staring at their phone avoiding all eye contact they are probably used to folks at the bar conversating at least a little bit, there's lots of folks who go to the bar to just chat but i find it difficult to initiate myself this is based on observation
Pool tables are great for this - if you start playing pool by yourself you'll have someone asking to join you within 5 minutes in my experience. Alternatively, you can just ask another person at the bar if they're down to play.