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friend group falling apart
This is not that big of a deal but still wanted to vent.
I had a friend group with like ten people I met through group therapy with a trans psychologist. We made our own chat group and started hanging out, mostly going to clubs together. It was mostly me, and three others, but sometimes other friends would join. Then, last year I was on vacation with my main friend group and I wasn't present for the last couple of outings with the trans friends. Then the first couple of months of the new school year I wasn't present for the few outings they had due to a busy schedule. Then I saw that one friend left the group chat. This was sudden, and nobody mentioned it. This was a huge deal since they were the one who was organising all the outings. After that there were no new outings planned for a couple of months. After a while I decided to organise something myself.
So I asked if they wanted to hang out and they were receptive. We decided to go to a bar. But it took a couple of weeks to decide which bar we wanted to go to and when, because people waited a long time to reply. When the appointment came it was four of us. Two friends who also went a lot of times to the outings with me. These two became good friends and I think they are hanging out a lot together outside of the friend group. So that probably explains why they don't do a lot of outreach to the group chat. The other friend who was present almost never went because she doesn't like clubs, so this was the first time I saw her in a long time. She probably has less of a clue what's going on than me. I didn't mention the friend who left because I thought they would mention by themselves, and because it was maybe sensitive. I had the impressing that they saw this outing as just a fun one-off thing. And after that they never reached out to me or the group chat to hang out again.
I decided to wait until Pride to reach out since that's a good excuse to hang out since we're all trans. And since it's six months later it's been time to hang out again. So three weeks ago I suggested to go to the Trans Pride walk together. Nobody replied. So two weeks later I asked again, two days before the walk. This time people did reply that they're busy and couldn't go. They weren't the activist type, so this was maybe also expected, but it's still frustrating. Fine, so I went alone. I decided to share a video of the walk to the group chat, so I could at least share something of the walk with them. Nobody commented.
It frustrates me that suddenly we went from hanging out every two weeks to not hanging out for every six months and even the group chat is lifeless. I have decided to try again in one or two months, and this time I'm gonna suggest to go to a bar again. If again nobody wants to go I'm gonna ask what the fuck's going on. Although I'm probably going to ask that regardless. These were one of the few trans people I hang out with so it's sad that almost all my trans personal connections have gone away.