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What will always be cringe-inducing to you?
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Referring to someone as queer. When I grew up that was a major insult. You just didn't use that word, like the n word. You used others like homosexual and such. But now it is mainstream and ok to use in the right way. But it still feels offensive in my head.
There was a deliberate movement to reclaim that word. Similar to black people using the N word. It also rhymes with here. "We're here. We're queer. Get used to it" was a big rallying cry in the 90s.
It does rhyme well.
As someone who is queer and knows queer people who use the word queer to identify themselves, many people use it as a form of shorthand to mean some variety of LGBTQ without going into more detail.
Yeah, I know all about it. I live near portland, we are generally very inclusive. My kid was explaining just some of the many categories to me the other day. It's a lot for an old brain to adjust to. And I am terrible at remembering peoples names. I may never be able to keep the categories connected to the people. Lol.
An easy shorthand is to treat it like the word female. "A queer" and "queers" is offensive, "queer people" is not.