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Yeah I know dating apps bad etc
I paid 17 dollars for the week pass allowing me unlimited likes 💀 of course because I’m desperate and they force you into that choice because using it for free you only get 5 free likes a day lmao. The problem is NOBODY fucking responds back to my messages, I’ve had 2 conversations out of 20 matches, one of the convos died after I asked them out, the other convo just ended abruptly for no apparent reason. It’s really demoralizing to say the least but I just don’t understand, if they don’t like me and accidentally sent a like they should just unmatch right away but they don’t.
The future is grim. How does anyone meet anyone anymore?
Idk I get lots of likes and everything but guys literally just won't ask me on a date? I'll say something like "Oh I wanna meet first haha just to know you're not a crazy person and stuff" and they're like "haha yeah ok'" and then never actually plan a fucking date. Like come on.
On the other hand I have met multiple friends on dating apps lol. But that's way less pressure. I did meet a very long term partner on an app too I've had luck with them, I'm just honestly frustrated with how the men are, and how they basically want to fuck and don't want to put any basic legwork in.
Wait I thought you were bi, why not the women if you are :(
Well I'm always interested in women but I've always dated women. Would like to try dating men. Who all seem very interested until they have to do literally any kind of thinking or work... Thing though is I don't accept this as expecting too much, I've done this stuff many times in my life when I was a guy. And it wasn't hard.
That being said I think I exist in a weird spot right now. I think some guys see me really as like a fem boy or something and are acting out some kind of chaser or gay fantasies, and as a result don't want to be seen with me in public. Or my vibe is a bit too masc for them... it's like I can talk to lots of people but nothing ever happens unless I make it happen. No one else is making it happen at all...
Ofc it's very easy to meet other trans women. It's now more difficult with cis women though, something I've noticed. I don't really get that but whatever lol
Same, though I'd imagine a lot of that is just there is way more cishet women than sapphic women. I've had way more interest with bi/lesbian enbies though, I feel like they typically only date other queer people
Oh yes part of it is that there are less lesbians however, I have over the past 8 months essentially had 0 interest from lesbians or even bi cis women. A little surprising tbh to me at least, I thought I would be an ideal for bi women
Come to the bay area girlie, your scene is weird
The only cis girl who has a crush on me is straight 😭🥲
lol this is way worse than I thought
Lmao who needs cis girls anyway
real, though the cis lesbians in SF are wonderful tbh, the cis bi ones are all the chasers and queerphobic
Veeeerrry interesting. Yeah I hear a similar thing from other places from my friends. I mean, cis lesbians here are cool too it's just I don't think I'm very seen as a woman so there's just no interest. I need to do voice training lol I'm pretty sure that's seriously hindering me at this point
oh yea, voice training is super important. I've jokingly asked a few lesbians if they wanted to hear my deep voice and they were just like please no I don't want to hear that
Yeah I just feel super aimless with voice training. I'm still not out at work so I just end up having to go back to the man voice for like 8 hours a day, and I have a bit of a mental breakdown when I hear my own voice so my voice training has been fruitless. On top of that I do have a naturally pretty masculine voice, it doesn't exist in the middle or anything where I just have to make a few adjustments. And the way I talk I think is pretty masculine.
However I finally got myself together and I have a consult for a voice coach this Friday so yeah. Hoping someone can help me with this