Yeah cards on the table, in a white dude, too. Frankly I find it hard to fathom looking at my more marginalized brethren and not listening. Maybe I'm more open to listen as a bisexual man, so I've tasted a little bit what it feels like to be othered in our society. I know it really happens because it has happened to me. But still. You have to deny the humanity of your siblings to not realize that what black, brown, and woman people say about their oppression is real.