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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by Cloak@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 
 

There's been an influx of content surrounding lemmy here. Some of it is open ended:

  • "What kinds of things from reddit would you like to see Lemmy avoid as the user base grows?"
  • "Lemmy, what do you call users of Lemmy?"

And these are a-ok! There's also been a lot of questions like

  • "How do I block a user?"
  • "How do I join a community on a different instance"

These aren't open ended (at least, relatively). They are objective based, and just need a resolution, rather than discussion. These sort of questions are more relevant to !lemmy_support@lemmy.ml.

I know there's also questions like "What are you guys doing when there’s multiple communities for the same thing across instances?". I'm inclined to let those stay, there is lots of opportunity for discussion. It's a game of discretion from a moderation perspective, but I assume most can easily guess what is cold hard support.

At least from me, moderation of support posts has been sporadic at best, despite the long standing rule. I will begin redirecting these questions to !lemmy_support@lemmy.ml, however I'm of course willing to listen to the community here if that's not what is wanted, as well as other feedback.

edit: support posts will now be removed, not locked

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"Dere types" are like tsundere, yandere, etc.

Catherine - Has a cat theme but isn't literally a cat. She is treated like a cat and a tool by the antagonists that traumatized her. At first, she acts sweet and kind with a very disturbed, traumatized interior and acts distrustful to Belle (who has a black cat motif) but later warms up to Belle.

Belle - Belle's exterior is like a black cat -- shy and aloof. She, too, acts cautious and distrustful to Catherine, but ends up dating her before breaking up with her after realizing she thought she was in love, but never was. (They both find someone later).

Dominique - Dominique, at first, seems like a friendly and shy girl. She is very patient and kind, and appears as “one of the good ones” to Catherine after Natasha’s mistreatment of her. However, Dominique is actually best friends with Natasha, and is very violent. She screams at Catherine, insults her, and says she just wants Catherine to “shut up and die”.

Natasha - Natasha is one of the “owners” of Catherine, who she decides to treat as a “pet” because she reminds her of a cat (hence the name CATherine). Natasha and her friends invite Catherine into the friend group and they all live together, but Catherine is treated badly there and Natasha makes a plan to kill Catherine. She is very fake and manipulative, and at first is very sweet, ladylike, and kind, before revealing it to be a facade.

Nora - Nora has a bear theme. At first, like a bear, she is rather violent and plans to kill her love interest. However, she begins to show a dere side after warming up to her and no longer wants to violently attack her.

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What are some examples of practices, attitudes, or definitions of Temporal.authenticity

Definition (what does it mean)

Triggers (what factors or situations are likely to implicate, and particularly violate this pairing)

Boundaries (how to protect your Temporal.authenticity and maintain it)

Edit: authenticity of your time, or managing your time in a way that it authentic to what you value and benefit from

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Or what would it take for them to leave?

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I mean none of these are actually pornographic ...

I thought this place was supposed to be "free", just how much of a user and speech genocide is happening on the backend that there isn't a single porn server on the whole fediverse ?

I mean, I did notice that you can't say duck the ducking duckers but I thought that was just a little quirk of my randomnly chosen lemmy instance and it wouldn't be a problem once I leave this server for my own, greener, self-hosted pastures ...

But what's up ? Is this place also infected with the depraved virulent anti-human morality of americans and their infinite hatred of the sight of the human body ?

What else are you HIDING from me Lemmy ? What other thought have you been making me UNTHINK ?

I'm quite pissed right now

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Like I speak English and Portuguese, learning Dutch, and (not doing it for the sake of a primarily English-speaking community) but I will often switch between the two, like saying "Bom dia/Oi" to someone or "Tchau!"

I may also falar assim and I don't do it to show off, it's just comfortable pra mim. I will mix in a few português words. (Not exactly like this but YKWIM, maybe).

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submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by golden_zealot@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 
 

Hey all,

I am wondering how to learn about auto work. I am self taught in many things but this subject evades me somewhat. It seems like the kind of thing that someone would teach to you directly but most of my learning comes from self study interacting with things directly and reading texts.

My brakes are starting to make a squeaking noise when I come to a stop and as a result I have gained an interest in learning about some basic auto work.

Does anyone have any good resources where you can learn about these things in a sequential manner? That is to say, learning the most basic concepts up to the more advanced concepts?

Thanks.

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To me it is about gaslighting and arguing for the sake of arguing. We've long been in this realm of society now where nobody wants facts or truths, they just want you to be wrong. I have before, cited resources in arguments I've shamefully invested in, knowing that it will not matter in the end. Because I'm still going to be called a liar, I'm still going to be subjected to insults and be baited and gaslit.

And the same people still turn around and expect credible sources to be provided to them? Why ask when you don't care?

It is one thing for someone to make outrageous, blatant and unclaimed arguments than it is another who talks of something and it has a resemblance of truth to it.

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I'll usually first notice it sometime in the afternoon, a stale, rubbery, maybe sour smell on my hands, especially the fingertips. Like a weak version of the smell that develops after wearing rubber gloves, even though I hadn't touched gloves all day. Quite annoying and makes me want to grit my teeth. Washes off with soap and water 9 times out of 10, but I'm also not bothered enough to do anything about it until I bundle it with a trip to the restrooms. I've never been able to trace down the source and it's been that way through school, work, and since at least 10 years ago in general. Anyone else experience this or know what might cause it?

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I recently detailed my car and in many spots what I assumed were bug guts were little rust spots. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle this? I know you can buy paint that roughly matches the car's paint, but is there some kind of sealer I should use first?

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Asking for a friend

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Recently i found out that pip actualy works normaly in Brawe browser. Which was amaising on itsown but now, the question is why it doesnt work in Safari..?

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Include a pic if you can so its easier to browse and see what ones might be appealing to readers

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I see people “being led on” a lot and I wonder, what are some actual signs of leading someone on in a relationship?

My 2 yr relationship with my GF is very good, I’m just curious because I do hear the phrase a lot without knowing the literal signs of it.

I also may have been “led on” before by exes.

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Not sure if anyone else is like this but I always find some random healthy thing to start doing for a little bit sometimes it sticks sometimes it doesn't.

Right now I'm eating oatmeal every morning and I've been eating a lot of black beans and doing a lifting program. Going to attempt to start jogging.

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cross-posted from: https://programming.dev/post/37522554

I am looking for a site or a service that just give me a title and a link for news stories.

Basically, if for example the news is Executive Order from Donald trump, I want them to just show debullshitted title and a link to the executive order.

Does that exists?

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Anything helpful to remark?

  • no loop = realtime non repetitive
  • no music
  • dark or bright
  • new wood/logs added

Its strange but i almost prefer simulated video game depictions, kinda weird. Its super impressive to me we can realistically and convincingly simulate something bonkers like that

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I once entered a “safe spaces” Discord server with literal flowers and stuff. It looked very innocent and welcoming and it was just for gaming. Turns out, they were making fun of their members on it, fake-crying to mock a depressed user, and kept telling the users to “let them see their cuts”. It was so disturbing. These were literal 18-20 year olds, too, and I was like 13.

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Not that it matters now, but I'm curious. I don't know if I was popular. I had a lot of friends in middle school and I would say I did in high school too, but a lot less people knew me as the middle school I went to was smaller.

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