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If so, pictures please. Pictures of common pets are welcome too. Bonus points for skunks.

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3626563

with people with good skills to defuse a tense situation at the workplace I mean everyone of you, because I suck at this and I'm sure anyone here is better than I am with this kind of stuff.

Tense situation is a karen yelling at one of my colleagues because her father's operation was postponed because I kid you not 4 doctors called in sick today. Rumor has it they're striking for better pay.

My instinctive response if someone starts behaving like a childish, snippy, entitled karen and acts passive-aggressively is to leave and ignore the person. In this case, the karen started ranting to my coworker, getting all snippy and wouldn't shut up. A rational conversation with people that irrational is impossible, so I kept doing my job, transferring a patient to another ward.

I never expected this colleague to tell me she felt let down because I didn't help her to deal with said karen. She said simply staying next to her would have sufficed. I told her I'd do that next time someone yells at her.

I consider myself lucky because I can leave to do my job but my colleague was trapped with this person.

My questions to you people with good social skills:

does it really help to simply stay next to my colleague, letting her do the talking while I do nothing but looking at the karen in the eye?

what if, each time the karen opens her mouth I repeat 'calm down' ad nauseam till she either tires, shuts up or walks away?

what do you say or do to support your coworkers while they're being verbally abused that somewhat defuses the situation?

what if avoiding conflict is a trait of mine to the point that I let people walk all over me?

how do you resist the urge to walk away? Situations like this trigger my fight or flight response.

what if I have to do this with a man and it gets physical? If somebody strikes me and I strike back, and I can guarantee you I'm striking back, I'm as guilty as the first aggressor.

would be kinda amusing if we had similar ceremonies here on Lemmy.

For me, it’s tequila. I wasn’t prepared for how quickly I got drunk and how drunk I got lol

Never again. shudder

Sorry I typed a lot, so I get if you don't want to read my whole post lol.

I recognize the irony of asking this on a super online forum, but with the introduction of Sora AI and the AI getting harder and harder to detect, I'm getting to the place where I'm personally think I need to start fortify my mind and start to unplug from big tech and the internet more.

I'm starting to build my own NAS to self host media that I curate. For me, my digital plan to ward off the brain rot is easy: RSS feeds, email newsletters, and self-hosting and getting off big social media platforms (YouTube is gonna be hard , ngl; I legit have a YT addiction...)

But for the IRL offline piece, I don't even know where to start. I spent the vast majority of my life by myself on computers (entering my mid-20s). Because I have neglected building social relationships, I'm so socially inept, lol. I'm starting from zero. Like, I know for older folks and more offline zoomers, this might sound dumb asking, but if you are more comfortable being by yourself alone on a screen, dealing with the real world and ppl unpredictability is hard knowing where to start.

I'm out of college, and grad school is too expensive, lol. It's crazy to think just 20 years ago ppl lives were completely different. And with the direction the internet is going, it just getting filled with bots, slop, and ragebait, I recognize I need to better use my time on earth, but it's hard when most of my life I've spent online in front of screens. Like, I'm kind of a bit agoraphobic,(not completely; I go to office when required, though), and WFH and all the internet conveniences make staying indoors so easy and attractive (amazon, walmart, streaming, porn). I was listening to my favorite podcast and they said "We need to make real life more enticing than the internet." And that really stuck with me.

Our brains have been hijacked by big tech to keep our eyeballs on their platforms for profit. and with the AI stuff, the level of fakeness I cannot personally tolerate, and I dunno if the combo of just me getting older and becoming dissatisfied with my life and all that is causing me to seek advice from strangers on the internet to help inform some changes lol.

Shouldn't the air pressure crush them until the density inside equals the density outside? Why does helium balloon behave so differently from a vacuum-filled balloon?

I typically spend the week thinking about what I'll make for main meals and then execute it all on one day. I make 8 full meals then 5 overnight chia oats and 3-5 portions of whatever meat was on sale at the store. It typically takes a few hours on my last day off any week (work a really weird schedule). I supplement any other cooking/more oats as the week progresses.

Just watched gameplay of unreleased game plants vs zombies 3 . Its so bad, original from 2009 is milion times better.

And same goes for all other games. Why are old games better than new ones, they dont put any efort today to make good quality game.

It looks like they just want to make it quick and cheap. No wonder games are so lov quality..

My short response. Yes.

https://imgur.com/a/bullock-snoring-6cVTf4K

light snoring...?

TLDR If I get arrested for being topless as a trans women the outcome would either be
1: it's illegal, which would be a win for trans women as we would be considered closer to cis women, or
2: it's legal which would be a win for free the nipple movement because it could be argued "that trans women can do it and their boobs are the same as ours"

I think Tommy wiseaux from The Room does it best

Prevalence of Any Mental Illness (AMI)

Figure 1 shows the past year prevalence of AMI among U.S. adults.
    In 2022, there were an estimated 59.3 million adults aged 18 or older in the United States with AMI. This number represented 23.1% of all U.S. adults.
    The observed prevalence of AMI was higher among females (26.4%) than males (19.7%).
    Young adults aged 18-25 years had the highest prevalence of AMI (36.2%) compared to adults aged 26-49 years (29.4%) and aged 50 and older (13.9%).
    The prevalence of AMI was highest among the adults reporting two or more races (35.2%), followed by White adults (24.6%). The prevalence of AMI was lowest among Asian adults (16.8%).

I'll start with a couple I've found for keeping up with atomic clock time, but this question isn't limited to timekeeping, it can also relate to celestial events, weather, etc..

• https://time.gov/
• https://time.ms/

I do like the sleek and streamlined time.ms site, but according to their whois data, they only started that site a couple months ago, while time.gov has been around since 1999.

Long standing sites are preferable, but either way, what other live data sites do you people recommend?

Didya save it?

I have two kids under 2 years old and I have a friend who has a daughter the same age as mine.

My wife is friends with his wife and they talk often. She recently told my wife that my friend wants to have another kid, but she doesn't appreciate how little he showed up with this first child and she wants to wait for his "dad instincts" to kick in before they have another child.

I found this surprising as I have gone out several times with my friend where we have taken our daughters for play dates and he always seemed like a kind and caring father to me. Very attentive to what his daughter was doing and always running after her. I also did not understand what "Dad instincts" meant.

So a few weeks ago we arrange to catch a game together at a local bar with a few other friends. I have not been able to get out much as two kids are very demanding, but I was looking forward to catching up with my friend because the other people we were meeting don't have kids and my friend and I would have something common to talk about.

So we meet up and we initially talk about our kids. I ask how his family is and he does the same. I'm telling him all the things my kids have been up to and I can see that he is nodding and smiling, but did not seem to be listening to anything I was saying.

When I finish talking he suddenly says, "Hey look at who I have for my fantasy lineup this week," and he breaks out his phone and starts showing me.

That was the moment I saw it. Exactly what his wife had been complaining about. I feel like my life has grown so much, but he was reminding me of what we were like 5 years ago or more.

Our friends showed up later and he does not bring up his family once. All he talked about with them was going to play golf and out to restaurants. He was making all these plans for the next two weeks and all I thought about was, "What about your wife and kid? Won't they need you on those days?"

I didn't know what to think of it at the time. I was just shocked that his priorities seemed so different when he has the same responsibilities I do and people counting on him to be around.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/37264234

I mean classical music: playing a piano, a clarinet or a cello professionally at an opera or theater.

I have a job I'd describe as easy, is not a job I had to go to college for, it pays the bills, I don't like it nor hate it but it doesn't motivate me. There is some micromanaging sometimes but most of the time I'm left to work alone, which is good.

Studying a musical instrument would involve extensive micromanaging: first from your professor, then from your conductor, something that'd destroy your motivation.

I consider every art related job to be like this: Jobs in the humanities are known to be very scarce, meaning lots of graduates compete for a very reduce number of positions, meaning employers get away offering the "lucky" ones less, meaning employers can micromanage more than usual, because they know graduates don't have that many options. Art could be painting, sculpture, architecture, theater, museums...

Can an actual musician chime in? This was maybe too dark.

I'm all for supporting people in Gaza, but these smell very (cat)fishy.

Back in 2017-19 during the border wall craze the Reservation made headlines cause the government wanted to seize part of the land for the wall. Court Battles followed but I can't find any information on whether they actually had to give up the land?