ValiantDust

The people who say IUDs and pills are abortions.

Rape is an option for them, so I don't think they care.

I was going to say I have picked up wasp-swarmed fruit (pears, apples, plums) for 25 years and have only been stung by a wasp once – when I stepped on it barefoot. But I realised wasps are probably not the same wasps everywhere and I live on another continent than OP and maybe you.

Hard no on the food, but I'm with you on Never Gonna Give You Up. I sometimes klick obvious rickrolling links just to listen to it.

I also unironically like Wonderwall.

Lesbian relationships on TV and in other media are often portrayed with a male gaze and/or fetishising. Do you think that that might play a role in making you feel uncomfortable?

It's very hard to tell from the outside what's the cause of the way you're feeling. But I guess the best thing you can do is to try to improve and to keep investigating your emotions.

I sometimes also use Netzteil.

(Literally: Net thing. The net is the power grid)

Yes, please do that. So we are immediately aware that we should get away as fast as possible.

I think you would benefit from having a progressive community around you IRL, not just online. People who accept you as you are and understand your fears.

I'm guessing moving somewhere progressive to go to college isn't an option. But you said you live close to a city. Is there maybe some group you could join there? Maybe an LGBTQ+ adjacent group? I know you are straight and cis, but some of the people there probably have experienced similar problems and allies are often welcome. Having a working support network makes things a lot less scary.

I feel you could choose another metaphor though, and it would make sense.

Like, when you go to a shop to buy something or buy something online, you have already chosen the destination. Then you decide how you pay, choosing the source.

To me both make sense equally.

Ich hatte mich bis zum letzten Absatz gefragt, warum ihr nicht einfach kurz gegoogelt habt. Dann ist mir eingefallen, dass ich auch noch kein Smartphone hatte, als ich meinen Führerschein gemacht habe. Schon krass manchmal, wie integral das Internet in unserem Alltag geworden ist.

Add bogs to that list. Worldwide, bogs store more CO2 than forests. Restoring them and making sure they don't dry up (which also would release a lot of gases harmful to the climate) would be a good way to capture CO2.

I don't have any numbers to compare it to other techniques though, sorry.

Yeah, that's what I meant. I always felt appreciated, deeply loved and supported.

I suspect we might not actually disagree but just have a different way of expressing what we mean, since we apparently come from different cultural backgrounds. I'm from Germany and I'm told the way we talk about our feelings can sometimes seem dispassionate and cold to others.