was? ich habe das jetzt oft gelesen und ich verstehe dich nicht. ich habe keinen kommentar über linke oder linke werte gemacht? und ich habe auch kein statement dazu verfasst wer für oder gegen solche werte wäre. Um mich vielleicht anders aus zu drücken. ich finde konservative oder religiöse extremesiten gehören in dieselbe schublade. egal mit welchem religiösen oder kulturellen hintergrund.

mich persönlich stört es momentan reaktionen von menschen zu sehen welche den islam verantworlich für die attacke machen, welche bei einen angriff von einem christen nicht die religion beschuldigen würden.

hard agree. Das fällt für mich in dieselbe kategorie wie ein angriff eines nazis. es sind konservative xenophobe extremisten.

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I see how that question might sound funny, but googleing, trying to find out what i feel i found this exert about a broken spirit:

"To "break someone's spirit" is to destroy their self-esteem, to take away their joy in life, their belief and joy in who they are"

And this got me thinking, because i dont belive i have such a thing. not meaning to sound edgy i am generally curious what your experiences are. I started depression quite early in life, and just thought thats normal life untill many years later (my parents dont belive in mental health. i am almost 30 now btw). i wonder if i might have missed some personal development. Normally i struggle enough to only life day by day. if i plan, i never plan further ahead than a week. and i never cared to define myself as a person. i would struggle to write a short description about me, that isnt just a listing of facts like, where i live, what i do, ect.

I also am suffering unde extreme anxieties, and belive to have some trauma thats not yet processed, if thats important to my experience here.

How do you experience self? is that a concept that can give you like joy and faith?

thank you. i dont understand how people meme stuff they obv dont even consume

[-] SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

depends on the order. if you build abs on testosterone (t) then go on estrogen (e) then you just can with relatively easily upkeep them. if you went on e before working out, its just as hard as for cis women. so hardcore cis women body builder go on t for a short time (some weeks) to get big muscles easier before retuning to e.

just wanna add that it is easier to get them with testosterone. i think it makes sense to make that distinction here since there are literal cis women body builder who take it as performance enhancing drugs.

[-] SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I think i was in a similar spot before (eventhough it lasted way less years). the problem i realised was, that i put my former partner on a podest. they were my godess/queen or whatever. i realised thats because i was romantacising it way more than it was in reality. I did meet them again after a few years and they seem to have changed. thats when i realised maybe they never changed but i didnt see them for who they are back then with youthfull naivity and rosecolourentainted glasses.

i started to change my mindset, in the sense that i dont need them or any partner for my perfect life. i just need me. i am the most important person in my life now, as it should be. it took time, it took therapy, but i got there and life is better without feeling dependent on such (at least partly) imaginary things.

i hope things turn around for you, and you can enjoy the future. as you said the past cant be changed, but the future can.

Edit: typos

Edit2: my wife has adhd and i love her dearly. just as a reminder that you are lovable too the way you are.

THANK YOU! you out into words what i have been struggleing so much to explain. i am diagnosed with social anxiety but i dont feel its quite fitting. i suspect heavily to be autistic, and i relate to your number 2. a lot. i mainly feel anxiety because i know i perform worse. all out of a sudden i cant do things i can do well normally and am quite proficent in, just because someone watches me do it or is just in the same room. im so focused on them and what might go on inside them. this makes spending time doing stuff with other often hard if im not hyperfixating.

ill bring this to my next therapy appointment.

can we also talk about the length of the arms of the person in the back?

ok ill go, eventhough i just started building and dont have such a well written origin and only placeholder names. but it goes like this: the fist thing the world knows is how Infinity has created it. back then the world was quite diffrent. everything was infinite and neverchangeing. out of this premature world Change started to exist. a god equally powerful to Infinity. with Change came day and night, life and death, happines and sadnes. since then those two creators have been fighting an everlasting fight over how the world should be.

there will be like god champions around the concepts of destruction, creation, order and chaos who fight on either side of the two creators. the idea is that the humanoids and animals merely life inbetween this fight on their battlefield. ofc the audience wont notice this godly fight but there are still churches and cults formed around them.

my idea was that i wanted necromancy in my game and it shouldnt be seen as evil. so i came up with the idea that a follower of infinity would see it as a good thing to extent life forever.

thanks for this thread. your story gave me some inspiration to flesh my idea out.

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Heyyy, I am so sorry for missing two full weeks, and barely beeing online. Tl;dr: had a bad depressive episode. Yet i still managed to read all new posts and comments in the meantime. i apprechiate all you people very much, even when socialising can be impossible. Love to you all!

That sounds like a lot of stress factors in your life. i wish your family member will recover well and soon. Tbh i had to google these plant since i didn't know them. they look like quite nice indoor plants. is plant-keeping a hobby of yours? i tried to get into that but my bonsai is barely holding up since i forget to water too often ^^"

[-] SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Heyho it's me again. After a rough patch in my life i got a sick note freeing me from work. Thankfully i live in a country that values mental health as highly than physical health. combined with a healthy environment at home i can actively relax and recharge. Ngl i do feel somewhat guilty of letting my coworkers down, but i know rationally its for the better. Today i will meet up with my board game group to play some games. This should be nice, since they all know my struggles and respect my limits. Next week is more active relaxation and self care planned. Wish you all a nice week. Take care!

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A place to chit chat, share whats going on in your life, and generally for people who feel like talking but dont know where.

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Hey sorry for the delay. i had no acces to a computer, and the app doesnt give me the ability to pin posts. Have a nice week!

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/socialanxiety@lemmy.blahaj.zone

i know this sounds paradox and maybe some will not understand this (yet), but i want to shine a light on some positive side effects of this primarily negative topic.

for me, i feel like social anxiety has made me more empathetic towards my fellow humans. i work as a service worker in sales, and many of my coworkers don't care about the customers and are mostly just annoyed at them. i try to show understanding since i never know what someone is going through and how hard this shopping trip is for them. i have the motto that i want to give people around me more space, and more time to do whatever. however much time they might need. because i know i sometimes need this, and i am very happy when i can see someone who apprechiates it when i don’t pressure them to buy something. i think we all can practice a little more empathy. i imagine without experiencing social anxiety myself i would have less acceptance of other peoples struggles whatever kind that might be.

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Hello you beautiful people. I want to start this little experiment where i will pin a megathread each week for talking about your week, share small victories, or discuss your goals for the next week. There are no topic rules to this, any kind of small talk is welcome. :) I figured since some of us might lack a space to share about their daily life, maybe we can use such a place here.

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I am mostly looking for healthy ways to cope with stressful situations. what do you do when the panic kicks?

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Thank you :) I hope it will become a save and supportive community for all of us. as someone who struggled with this for a many years and has learned how to live happily nevertheless i felt called to create this space. equivalent spaces on reddit and such have helped me alot.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/newcommunities@lemmy.world

I wanted to create a community i was missing personally. Here people with (or without) social anxiety can discuss the topic, vent, find information or just talk in a safe space.

Link #1 Socialanxiety

Link #2 !socialanxiety@lemmy.blahaj.zone

(hope i did the links correctly ^^") Have a nice day!

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Hey people! I just created the hub socialanxiety@lemmy.blahaj.zone since i didn't find a Hub for that yet, and feel like i have relevant experiences and want to help the whole plattform grow. Since i never created a sub on reddit or the like before, i am wondering if there are things i can do to help the Hub grow and reach the people it was designed for?

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I think we all had these annoying situations where an uninformed people doesn't know what they are talking about. Do you have any particular one that grinds your gears?

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