This is great and something I also strive for. I find often that I gravitate towards other neurodiverse folks, and knowing that someone else is having difficulty navigating a given situation often makes me feel like not only that I can step up and help them, but that I want to do so. I wouldn't if it was just me, but I will always order coffee for my BFF rather than making her have a social interaction I know she is worried about. I'll also happily make phone calls to doctors or to set appointments for friends and I would rather die on the floor than do it for myself. This might be a clue to ways around my social anxiety, if I could learn to treat myself as a friend who needs help.
i relate so much. makeing a doctors appointment for myself usually takes months of procrastination. for my friend? sure i'll call, scedule it and acompany them there :D
It's weird, right? As long as I am being a helper I can do anything. I think this is a pretty big clue that we should value ourselves as much as we do our friends!
This is an approach called strengths based or positive psychology. I have been learning about this recently. Focusing on enhancing and developing strengths instead of trying to fix problems can improve overall well-being and resilience. I don't know if I can think of another one but I would also consider myself to be an empath.
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