I'm a wife whose husband feels this way and let me just say, for a lot of heterosexual women (especially millennials; the 90's were rough for girls) it is very VERY hard to internalize this message, no matter how often we hear it.
But I'm trying! And it makes me so happy that he loves my body, so I don't get tired of hearing it, even if it's a little uncomfortable having to confront my low self esteem.
I don't know if I'd call it a mass exodus, and I don't know that it directly has anything to do with Lemmy, but there's been a noticeable dip in quality. Fewer posts across many of the front page subreddits, fewer votes, more bot posts, more low effort posts, less discussion in comment sections, lots of deleted comments and accounts... overall there just seems to be a dip in quality.
I was going to delete, but decided to stick around for a while first, to see how things pan out, and I've got to say the mobile site is even worse than expected. I get constant pop ups trying to direct me to download the app, then when I say no the website will auto reload, often sending me back to the top of the page. It's difficult to find and respond to anyone who replies to your comments, and sometimes if you sort by top: today it won't even show any posts. Just... blank. Clicking on a post opens it as a tab that is more like a popup, and closing it resets where you were on the page.
I could keep going but I think that pretty much summarizes what I've noticed. Don't know that it's directly related to a Lemmy "exodus," and I'm still finding my way around here so I can't really say, but reddit as we knew it seems pretty dead.
Is it bad that I hope this is a sign of medical issues that will force him into retirement? I'm sick of a misogynist turtle calling the shots.
I was just a kid at the time but still remember the media making a huge villain out of Sinead. They made it seem like she was mentally unstable, but she was just years ahead of everyone else. I'm sad that she didn't get to see this outpouring of support and appreciation while she was alive. She died far too young, and I hope it wasn't by suicide. I hope she wasn't in pain.
I have to respect the fact that he doesn't think I deserve bodily autonomy? I disagree. People can and do have harmful beliefs. They are harmful because they shape the way that person views and interacts with others, within the confines of a social structure. If he wants to go off grid and not benefit from any social services, I'll help him pack the moving truck myself. But he's not going to, which means he's benefiting from rights, laws, and services that are meant to protect everyone, even people who he doesn't think deserve them.
Pro-life individuals are so insidious, they managed to have a basic human right rescinded in more than half the country.
Was he solely responsible for overturning Roe v. Wade? Of course not. Did he directly impose his opinion on anyone else? Maybe, maybe not. We only have his word to go on, and I'm sorry but that's not worth shit.
My point is, he's not just sitting there twiddling his thumbs either, he's using his platform to publicly support big institutions (March for Life) that work diligently behind the scenes to oppress women.
Like I said, I enjoy the comics. They're cute and funny and I don't get the vibe that he's using them to be preacy about abortion. But he is 100% a shitty person with offensive, harmful beliefs and no, I do NOT have to respect that.
I love the Strange Planet cartoons, but just FYI the author, Nathan Pyle, is unapologetically pro-life, publicly engages in some really harmful rhetoric surrounding women's reproductive rights, and refuses to listen to scientifically irrefutable facts regarding abortion, just because he and his wife are Christian. He says they vote Democrat anyways because they're "troubled by what the republican party has become." But somehow I really really doubt that. I wouldn't be surprised if they supported the dismantling of Roe v. Wade under the guise of freedom of religious beliefs. The odds of them believing in the separation of church and state while simultaneously attending events like the March for Life are slim to none.
Something I'd like to share:
I've been periodically checking reddit in my Browser to see what's going on. I commented last week about noticing a sharp decrease in posts on "my" front page. Since then I've observed a few more interesting things.
Late last week, I noticed that multiple subreddits (BORU and PICS in particular) had like 2-4 posts when sorted by "top, 24 hours." It wasn't a case of having to click "next" (I really miss rifs endless scrolling feature...) to navigate to a second page of posts; there was no 2nd page. That was it.
I also noticed that on the mobile website, ads are designed to look nearly identical to posts (imo it was more obvious that they were ads on rif), and most of the time the website would only have 1 or 2 posts before one of these fake ad posts, so your user experience is immediately impacted.
The ads don't seem to be as targeted as they used to be. I used to get ads that seemed to be geared toward me, my searches, and interests. Creepy, but I found it way less annoying than the alternative. Which is apparently a lot of "He Gets Us" and ads for complicated electronics or unnecessary services. Like a mobile vet clinic that isn't even available in my area, lol.
The bot posts are getting obvious and WEIRD. I took screenshots last weekend because just about every other post had a robotic, overly formal, and/or downright confusing title. Here are some examples:
56.3k, front page: "A brain tumour changed her life Her nerves are badly damaged! But today she opened a car door.....walked.....opened a gym door.....walked and sat down ..BY HERSELF what a lady"
[Quotation marks, format, and ellipses are original]
40.5k, front page: The trapped dog doesn't wait a bit to hug the rescuer after being freed..
Same weird ellipses, and the way it's phrased is like a "correct the mistakes" worksheet for 2nd graders.
I think Reddit is in the "find out" stage of their fucking around, even if it's a quiet or subtle change to the casual observer.
I also tried going to ModCoord [I'm not a mod it just felt like a good place to find updates] and, on my end, it looks like almost everything has been deleted. The same day I took screenshots, /r/PICS posted a public response to reddit's threats, which weren't even acknowledged on modcoord. The most recent post I could see was something from GallowBoob? It was really odd.
Is the website being glitchy? Probably. That is, after all, part of the root of this problem. But if anything, I'd say it's pretty clear that the content has decreased in both quality and depth in the last 10 days. Even if a lot of users are still signing in, I don't think they're posting, commenting, or voting as much as they used to. That may be a reflection of the quality of posts, or of users displeasure at the situation, but regardless of where it came from, at least it's something.
How do I contact my instance admin?
I went ahead and logged out and back in on my own, but I was not prompted to do so by Lemmy and I don't know enough about this stuff to say whether or not doing it on my own would've helped. I'm still pretty overwhelmed trying to figure this site out, so I apologize if this is a dumb question, just want to make sure I'm doing what I can to protect my own privacy.
I don't want to fall for the millennial version of a Nigerian prince scam, lol.
There have been plenty of movies and shows based on this so I guess I'm more confirming a poorly kept secret than I am revealing it, but;
If you go out to eat in a college town (esp if it's a state school,) there's a good chance that almost every employee (managers, bartenders, servers, you name it) is drinking or smoking pot out back, if not in the middle of an active bender. We'd fill our water bottles with alcohol, make food for our stoner friends in exchange for drugs, take shots in the walk-in fridge, roll on Molly while cooking, run out back to puke, and rally for the rest of our shift. After closing we'd meet up with other industry friends, usually at a bar where one of them was still working, close that place down, then pair off and hook up in questionable places.
I've had sex on restaurant rooftops and patios, in supply closets, behind the stacked pallets in dry storage, and in the manager's office. I witnessed others get it on in booths, on top of the video poker machines, and even on the bar itself. Thankfully never where food was prepared, but that was pretty much the only thing that was off limits, and only within my social circle. I can't speak about others.
I'm a boring elder millennial now, but every once in a while I reminisce about working in the service industry. I don't think I appreciated how much freedom I had, I was too busy worrying about money, school, and relationships. I definitely wouldn't do it again, but I'm glad I got to sow my oats, or whatever.
Can I ask some possibly dumb questions?
Thank you!
I logged in to reddit on my computer the day after rif went dark, and there were noticeably fewer posts on the front page. I think only 8 or so posts were above 10k upvotes. I wouldn't be surprised if advertisers are pulling their ads in response.
She alternated between giving them insulin, injecting air into their bloodstream, and overfeeding them. The babies that recovered most likely did so either because they weren't in bad shape to begin with, or because they coded while a competent doctor or nurse was on call and able to stabilize them, or because of luck. One of the babies she attempted to kill survived, but has severe cerebral palsy and requires a feeding tube. There's no definitive way to say that the nurse's attempts on her life caused her condition, as she was already a preemie and at risk for multiple complications, but I'd say the lack of durability definitely led to at least some lasting damage for some of the babies that recovered.