You've been pretending to be principled and honorable (not to mention above it all) with talk of how terrible it is to "pass judgment without asking questions." Then you go on to use a working person's struggle to pay rent and avoid homelessness as a means to hurt them. All because they dared to find some humor in how ridiculous your comment was.
That is more than enough for anyone here to conclude without further questioning that you're not the good, noble person you're pretending to be. You're shallow and petty. It doesn't surprise me in the least that you would comment on a post like this in an attempt make excuses for your fascist-abetting spouse.
In a society that rewards greed and punishes empathy while grinding everyone into abject alienation from their labor, from their communities, from each other, and from themselves, it's no surprise that so many people get molded into self-serving, willfully ignorant, insufferable pricks. It's a feature of a capitalist society, not a bug. Capitalism cultivates and nurtures the worst aspects of human nature while trying to snuff out or at best twist the good and positive traits of our social species. There's nothing wrong with hating the innumerable shitty people who have adapted to this mode of production by becoming shit people, so long as you don't ever think they represent the "inherent" state of humanity or lead you to hate humanity as a whole. Don't let that rational, understandable hatred of people as they are now, adapted under capitalism, dissuade you from seeing the beautiful potential for a loving, healthy humanity as it would be when adapted to communism.