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Alt TextPost from r/NoStupidQuestions, u/MCthugpocketwatch:

what does doomed yowie mean?

i was talking with my buddy over face time infront of my teenager daughter and her friend, and when we were talking her friend said “doomed yowie” to her and giggled. what does that mean?

Alt TextReply by u/maybetransmaybenot3:

I understand the meaning and sentiment behind what they’re implying. They’re being cheeky but not mean.

You are a man it seems? Your daughter’s dad? And you have a buddy that you like and treasure. Your daughter’s friend is making a joke that there is love between you and your buddy but it will never work out between you.... it will never become real romantic healthy love. It’s a popular sentiment online to refer to many things being “doomed love between boys (yaoi, pronounced “yow-ee”) and “doomed love between girls (yuri, pronounced “yu-ree”), about especially absurd things, such as the twin towers being doomed yuri because they were built together, but never touching, and only touched for the first time as they were dying from the plane impacts. And their proximity to each other is what brought upon their mutual annihilation.......... what is what it means to be doomed.

Found in this BlueSky thread.

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[–] Jorlmn@lemmy.world 5 points 20 hours ago

I often see reductionist takes of love between guys like this and it’s been annoying me. It’s an eradication of brotherly love imo. I get that people don’t want to appear gay so they don’t express or develop love between their bros to the extent that it’s possible, but that doesn’t mean that any expression is then a romantic expression.

Yes I get this is a kid saying it in the post, also a a joke, and it’s very possible that every example I’ve seen online is also from kids, but it’s been irksome. Go hug your bro and tell em you love them, it’s okay to do.

[–] AppleTea@lemmy.zip 174 points 1 day ago (3 children)

twin towers yuri being part of the explanation is just 😗🤏

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

ignore everyone else, i think you mean 🟡

[–] AppleTea@lemmy.zip 2 points 17 hours ago

Finally! The emoji to express what I've been trying to say all this time.

[–] degen@midwest.social 54 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] HerbalGamer@sh.itjust.works 26 points 1 day ago (1 children)

👌 is what you need, capice? 🤌

[–] degen@midwest.social 9 points 1 day ago

Ya know, I actually think it's somewhere in between. Smh never enough emojis for the human condition

[–] Klear@piefed.world 8 points 1 day ago (3 children)
[–] discocactus@lemmy.world 4 points 22 hours ago (1 children)
[–] kestrel7_7@lemmy.world 1 points 20 hours ago

To quote a poet, “Why shock her when you could Spock her?”

[–] degen@midwest.social 9 points 1 day ago

No, no, I think you mean 🫰but that might be Korean

Does building 7 mean nothing to you?

[–] Ephera@lemmy.ml 89 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It amuses me that the twin towers were the example they thought was easiest to explain.

[–] verdare@piefed.blahaj.zone 62 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

From my experience, every time a major website goes down (or does something really stupid) the users migrate to other websites like it's a refugee crisis.

So pretty much AO3 readers have broken containment for the time being.

Looks at join date yeah you'd have some experience with that.

I wonder what a federated AO3 would look like? There'd be perks to it, but it's probably not worth doing because AO3 largely seems to be a model for how to run a centralized platform well.

[–] OldBoy@quokk.au 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Today I Learned! Meanwhile I was thinking they were Aussie and talking about this:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yowie

No idea why the Yowie was doomed though.

[–] Zagorath@quokk.au 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was thinking of the chocolate based on the Indigenous myth.

I'm not sure why it was doomed, but it was. Got cancelled at some point in the mid aughts, came back a decade later with worse chocolate and much worse toys.

[–] OldBoy@quokk.au 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think you've cracked it! Worse chocolate and much worse toys sounds doomed to me.

[–] Zagorath@quokk.au 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yes but why did it get cancelled in the first place?

[–] JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I think some kid choked on a toy in a kinder surprise but yowie got caught in the case too.

[–] Zagorath@quokk.au 4 points 21 hours ago

I'm not sure, but to my knowledge Kinder hasn't changed nearly as much as Yowies, so if that's part of the story, it's certainly not all of it. Kinders stayed around the entire time, with the same chocolate recipe, and their toys might have been simplified somewhat, but the basic experience is the same.

Yowies disappeared for about a decade, and when they came back they switched from having Australian dairy milk chocolate to shitty American vomit-flavoured stuff, the toys went from far more intricate than Kinder to single lumps of plastic with no assembly whatsoever, and the eggs the toys come in now protrude out the side of the chocolate because apparently that conforms with some American standard about not having toys "concealed" in food or whatever.

Here's a photo I took in 2017 of what it looked like immediately after unwrapping the foil:

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And my full collection of photos the one time I bought and opened a modern Yowie.

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 30 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Surprisingly wholesome!

Daughter's friend was seeing the positive interaction between the dad and dad's friend and commenting positively/supportively on it in reference to one of the few positive examples of interactions between male she knows of in pop culture. We often talk about lack of good male role models available today. It sounds like dad and dad's friend are an example of supportive male platonic relationships.

[–] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I kind of thought the opposite of wholesome because the fact that daughters friend sees a platonic relationship and assumes there must be some hidden "doomed" romantic love in there assumes that healthy platonic relationships between men can't exist.

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

assumes that healthy platonic relationships between men can’t exist.

Daughter's friend is not a fully formed adult. She is a teenager. She's in the part of human life that is sorting out and defining what relationships even are. Especially if she's consuming lots of pop culture (which is implied from the anime trope reference) she's probably not getting a steady diet of regular adult male relationship examples in the media. Regular boring healthy relationships typically don't form the basis for entertainment choices.

[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 24 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Yeah but most doomed yaoi ends up together anyway, soooo....

Edit: I'm so happy I'm not quite so out of touch that I didn't recognise it.

[–] curbstickle@anarchist.nexus 16 points 1 day ago

It took me a bit to recognize "yowee" as "yaoi", so I'm only moderately out of touch. A good few years before my kids know what it means though.

[–] isVeryLoud@lemmy.ca 6 points 1 day ago

Doomed yaoi

[–] verdare@piefed.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 day ago
[–] LeftReddit2@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Yowie is short for Yowie Kapowie which is an Australian board game about collecting monsters. "Doomed Yowie" is for when you realize you're about to lose to your opponent.