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So an app for open marriages? Call it Swapr

Ex-Wife swap!

Goddammit it great idea, and much needed in this environment. But I see it getting bought and shittfied.

Anyway I am on board how do we make this happen?

... Claude make an app based on this post /s

For real though, as someone who bit the bullet and ended my relationship, it's hard. I wish them well, and after they moved out I still fear one of us isn't going to make it. Having a way to find a decent roommate easily would be nice.

I wish this was real, my son has been living with his ex until the lease is up.

Or to setup local locations of apartments where you can easily be approved and be able to move out from that awful lifestyle for up to 6 months rent free, but at the end you need to pay it all back with a significant amount of interest layed on top and the amount was already significantly more just to take advantage of people who just need to leave. Pay it all with the sale of the house or with a monthly plan kinda like school loans. 1 bonus is those 6 months your living surrounded by other divorced people so you all have stuff in common!

Man it would be so cool if studio apartments were just affordable and people could just move out immediately after breaking up & figure their shit out emotionally without having to tie in all this financial baggage.

It’s crazymaking to me to think that this was pretty normal in the 90’s and now seems fanciful

Should be considered psychological abuse. If an experience provokes suicidal ideation.in an otherwise normal person, it's violence imo.

It's a legally codified religious practice with tax benefits, I hate it so much

I mean there are also a lot of legal benefits and protections extended to a spouse that aren't extended to a boy/girlfriend. Depending on where you live, could mean tax credits, inheritance, how ownership of accrued assets is handled, priority guest access to ER if one gets injured, etc.

I agree with this, but I understand why people would want the ceremony, the reception party, and the honeymoon vacation.

What I don't understand at all is why anyone would make it a legal contract. Why pull the government into a private relationship? And, since they do often give certain small benefits, ask why they do that? What's in it for your government if people are legally bound to each other? And, do the benefits for you outweigh the detriments.

The thing is, no one asks this before the marriage, when they're all lovey-dovey and imagine "they're the one!" and all that. And, no one who knows better is going to suggest they slow down and reconsider, evidence being all the downvotes this comment would get if this post weren't one day old.

You're better off leaving the government out of your private relationships, every time. You can do the ceremony however you want, it doesn't need to be religious, and all the rest without making it a legal contract. Wouldn't you rather have a spouse that chooses every day to be with you without any coercion, who is free to easily walk away at any point? Imagine waking up every day and they're still there only because they want to be there with you and for no other reason.

The modern legal structure of "marriage" exists largly to protect the person who takes on what was traditionally the women's role in a marriage. There is no longer a legal obligation to have sex, leave the workforce, or dispraportionatly give up your property rights.

However, if an individual chooses to procreate, marriage helps insure the other party remains on the hook for the child. If an individual chooses to leave the workforce, and the relationship subsequently fails, marriage provides that individual substantial financial protections in the form of an equal claim to marital assets (and, potentially, alimony).

Without marriage, someone who chooses to take on the role of a homemaker places themselves in a very vulnerable and dependent position.

While these protections are no longer specific to women, they still disproportionately protect women; because heterosexual couples still disproportionately adopt a relatively traditional relationship.

There is also absolutely no requirement for a religious ceremony or diamond ring.

You think it's EASY to write a 3 sentence letter? I need at least an hour minimum. /s

I guess more people start in a happy marriage these days and than fall out of love. I think 60 years ago more people started a marriage more like a social contract. So they both may not be truly happy, but one has a much deeper fall and may therefor be percieved as the worse option.

Okay, so everything is fine, then?

I heard there's a resolution in Britain going through the system that would make people liable to pay their partner alimony, etc., even though they're not married.

we all know which gender will be required to pay out.

Pretty sure divorce is still at a very high rate, and will remain so for decades