It's nonsense.
I mean, it's not nonsense, it's just that "I'm attracted to people who think the way I like" is actually pretty common.
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I'm fairly certain there's people out there who get horny watching someone being smart just because everything's a fetish to someone out there but I'm also fairly certain near 100% of people who'd describe themselves as being sapiosexual just have some sort of authority or money fetish
It's called having a type. Having a type isn't necessarily a sexuality, it's just the collection of things that attract you in a person, and sometimes all the people you're attracted to have a thing in common.
I agree with having a type. To rescue a kernel of a concept, I do think getting excited about a hobby or special interest is attractive to others. My exhibit A are the TikTok memes of people getting smitten when their partners excitedly yap. I can see why people call it being Sapio because (afaik) there isn't a name for this idea yet.
This is literally what my partner says. She loves it when I gush about things I'm really interested and love, and I love it when she does. Idk, there's something really attractive about peeople being earnest and competent.
And :this: is Exhibit B lmao!
Lol I'll be the first to admit it. Most people I dated were really intelligent snd they were really happy to share their passions. It's just hot to see people you love being awesome and happy.
Dude at my job was 100% serious and said there should be a term for men who want to date their girlfriends for more than just their appearance
It was in relation to her wanting to get a breast reduction but was afraid hed find her less attractive and he was really bragging to us about it
Reminds me of that 4chan screenshot where they were saying the people at Gainax seemed like they had an "adult woman fetish"
Searching "adult woman fetish" shows porn and not a funny story for anyone wondering 
How am I supposed to cum if my partner doesn't yell the quadratic formula at me?
time for your MATH!
Denomimatrix 
This but unironically
In this economy, though? I'll settle for the Pythagorean Theorem
I mean I think it's a thing. So many people have so many different ways to describe their sexuality I don't think it's useful to gatekeep them, it's better to just accept all labels by default and only narrow them down if you have a specific reason for doing so.
The ableism instinct I also get, but think that applying it in such a personalized way is unhelpful. Imagine calling gay men misogynist for not being attracted to women. Individualized application of discriminatory terms like that is a form of liberalism.
No, it just means "I am attracted to conventionally attractive women who wear glasses".
No, that's just having a thing for people in glasses. Sapiosexuality is having a thing for people in glasses and being incredibly pretentious and self-satisfied about it.
The Ready Player One guy is a sapiosexual
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Thanks I hate it
I knew what this was going to be and I still opened it
It's when you're a redditor and want to date another redditor.
Thats literally me :^)