A place to post memes relating to the transgender experience.
Rules
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Transmasc][CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem][CW: Assumes Viewer is Nonbinary][CW: Transphobia][CW: Violence][CW: Weapons/Firearms][CW: Disturbing Imagery]Because it apparently has to be said, this community is supportive of all forms of DIY HRT.
Recommendations
[Transfem/Transmasc/Non-binary]I swear, every person in every transition timeline EVER looks so much happier than before. And it's just so wholesome, omg 😭💜
Funnily enough, I'd also say most people look much younger 😆
I thought the card was a picture of the tarot reader and that the implication was that her customer was going to end up marrying her.
Came to the comments and only then realised which community this was posted in. Boy was I off the mark there.
Ironically, I hardly have any pre-transition photos where I'm not smiling. When taking photos people always tell you to smile, so I always did, whether I was feeling it or not. I have more non-smiling photos from the past 8 months than the entire rest of my photo library combined because now I've started to just take random selfies sometimes and don't always feel the need to force a fake smile on.
Also YES nobody talks about the looking younger part, I don't think my face looks all that much different but it 100% looks dramatically younger and it's absolutely crazy. I've de-aged by multiple years, on multiple occasions in the past months I've been introduced to strangers alongside my brother (4 years younger than me) and they've assumed I'm the younger brother. Feels really weird, but I don't dislike it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I havent come out as trans at work yet but the looks i got the day i shaved my beard was wild. I instantly lost atleast 3 years and looked way more feminine with just that. I believe people are suspicious but I just pretend like nothing 😅
Not gonna lie not a lot of people believe that I'm in my 30's nor do they believe that I weight more than I look.
Hey me too! Honestly get pegged for mid 20's alot. It also happened alot pre transition too so idk good genes maybe?? 🤷♀️🤷♀️
Only when I shaved my beard back then.
When taking photos people always tell you to smile, so I always did, whether I was feeling it or not. I have more non-smiling photos from the past 8 months than the entire rest of my photo library combined because now I’ve started to just take random selfies sometimes and don’t always feel the need to force a fake smile on.
That makes total sense actually...
I tried to put on a fake smile in the past, when people were taking pictures of me...but from puberty onward, every picture of me looks like I'm dead inside, lol. I totally also take more random selfies now! And, actually...in many of them, I am smiling. I guess that's good 😄
Also YES nobody talks about the looking younger part, I don’t think my face looks all that much different but it 100% looks dramatically younger and it’s absolutely crazy
YES, omg 😭
I'm not that far into HRT yet (I don't think, at least), but I definitely see it. It's interesting and honestly, I kinda like the interpretation that the wrong hormones in one's body make them (temporarily) age way faster...which goes away with the correct ones. Idk, I'm just weird, probably
I’ve been introduced to strangers alongside my brother (4 years younger than me) and they’ve assumed I’m the younger brother
I won't stand for this 😭
You are girl, you are pretty. You are frighteningly underweight, but still pretty girl :3
Your brother is lucky to have a sister like you 🩷
I guess that’s good 😄
It sounds good to me :D
[...] the wrong hormones in one’s body make them (temporarily) age way faster…
Quite possible, but my analysis would be more like this:
My very limited sample size of only one transmasc I've known since before he started HRT tells me that this is at least somewhat true, because he definitely seemed to get quite a bit older in not that long of a time frame.
I won’t stand for this 😭
I appreciate the sentiment, but when I'm going around dressed like this I can't exactly blame people for assuming I'm a dude (and normally don't mind all that much, gender is weird like that sometimes). At this point, unless I'm clearly dressed fem I look sorta androgynous at best, and my hair is clearly doing most of the heavy lifting (pretty obvious because every morning, until I've gone through my routine of adding a metric fuckton of curling cream to force it to stay down, it tends to levitate and my face looks a lot less fem than it otherwise does).
That said I am absolutely not denying that there've been changes, compared to photos from like two years ago (and even this past January or Feburary) I look WAY more fem now :)
A lot of traits which we (in the West, anyway) associate with “youth” are the opposite of what testosterone causes
Oh. I haven't even thought of that. You're completely right tho! People do say shit like "Grow up, grow a beard" or "Grow some hair on your chest" or whatever. That really does make sense. Still, hate it when people say stuff like that...sorry
There’s probably something to be said about how this ties in to become yet another tool used by the patriarchy to infantilize women
Oh no...
Testosterone accelerates your metabolism
Huh, that's true! That's why I can barely drink 😭
For some reason, my brain didn't make the connection between faster metabolism and aging faster...
My very limited sample size of only one transmasc I’ve known since before he started HRT tells me that this is at least somewhat true, because he definitely seemed to get quite a bit older in not that long of a time frame.
Damn. Now I'm kinda worried about my one and only transmasc friend 😭
I trust the process tho. He definitely seems much happier, at least to me. And I'm super happy for him ❤️
...and my hair is clearly doing most of the heavy lifting...
I thought this too. For a long time. Until today, that is.
I was walking down the street, hair up in a ponytail, messed up from the wind, thinking how stupid I must look. I had my regular clothes, black hoodie and jeans, which are neutral at best.
And somehow...no idea how, I still can't believe it...when I was passing this homeless lady, she went:
"Hey, girlfriend! Got any spare change?"
And of course I gave her what I had in my wallet, lol. It wasn't much, but she surprised me in the best possible way, so I gave her all the change I had on me. She probably needed it more than I do anyway...
I'm NOT boasting, please don't take it that way. My point is...I thought my hair was the only thing making people gender me correctly. But today, with my hair tied back, my masculine face completely exposed...somehow I just kinda malefailed? If that even counts...
I know for a fact that I'm not making any sense. But girl...looking at your latest pic...you are fem (I mean that as a compliment). I hope you see the girl in the photos that I do, one day, for yourself 🩷
CW: ugly
This is what I was wearing today, minus the hair (tied back, surprisingly does a lot!) and duckface. This is boymoding to me, this is the outfit I go outside in most of the time. These are NOT feminine clothes, this is NOT a feminine face...nothing about me is. And still...somehow...this happened.
Please girl. Believe. I believe in you 💜
P.S: I'm really sorry, it's really late and I just got online a couple of minutes ago. Sorry if this comment doesn't make any sense, I've had a very long day 😭
I came out through tarot. He drew both the king and the queen, and I suggesded that their meaning was chronological.
The cards have decided! You are queen now.
Enjoy, queen 🩷
Unironically this happened to me after like two months of coming out as trans, god damn tarot cards.
Lol, the cards really know everything ig
I'm so jealous of people who know who/what they are and have a clear path to alignment of body and mind. I know it comes with its own burdens and hardships, and don't mean to dismiss anyone's struggle, but I just can't imagine any kind of transition or modification could ever assuage the dysphoria I feel in this body.
I believe you'll find it. Gender isn't simple for me either, but the more I allow myself to be myself and explore every side of myself, the more comfortable I feel in my own skin.
I think a lot of depictions of trans people is that they have some innate sense of who they are, how they want their body to look and how they want to be perceived. While this is certainly true for some trans people, it's definitely not all of them, and I'd go so far as to say it's probably the minority.
I certainly didn't have a clear image of what I wanted out of transition before starting, only a very specific list of traits I most certainly didn't like (being sweaty, smelly, emotionless, covered in thick body hair, having my whole body be either pointy bone or hard muscle, eventually going bald, ...), and started HRT cause it would kill pretty much all those birds with one stone (or at least had the potential to, and certainly wouldn't make anything worse). Literally every other aspect of my transition, be it clothing or name/pronouns, has been me basically going "hey if I'm already doing the HRT thing I might as well give every other way I could transition a try and see if I like anything", so I've just been throwing stuff at the wall and seeing what sticks. I've been through like 5 different names and have more or less concluded that I'm happy with my original name. I've tried quite a few different pronouns and so far I still don't know if I prefer any of them over being called "he". Feminine clothing turned out to be pretty fun and I like wearing it, but I'm also not throwing out my old wardrobe because sometimes the dorky graphic tee with a bad science pun is exactly how I'm feeling. Nail polish is a yes, facial makeup a hard no.
Not sure where I'm going with this, I guess I just wanted to make it clear that transition isn't necessarily a linear journey where you already know exactly where you're going before you set out, it's more of a wandering exploration as you come out of your shell and gradually figure out what makes you happy, and there might be many changes of direction throughout.
Thank you for sharing. That is genuinely interesting, and I appreciate the perspective.
Are you Zooble? 🥺
I (AMAB transfem) definitely wouldn't go into anything expecting to have an idea of the end result. I certainly didn't. I started with changing my clothing, my hair, tucking, painting my nails, and experimenting with my voice. I started voice therapy, trying to get the tools not to specifically sound feminine (at this point I called myself agender and/or nonbinary), but to have better control over my voice. I only started HRT on a low dosage after feeling how good trying out a more feminine gender expression felt. Those changes felt very good, and very affirming, so I upped the dosage. I added medications. Eventually, I got surgeries. I never had some clear image or path laid out for me. I just did each next step one at a time, whatever felt right for me.
You don't need to start with some big decision of the final state that will "fix" your dysphoria. Just start by experimenting, finding what feels right, and as more parts click into place, figure out what sticks out. For me, that was my voice. Then it was my figure. Then it was my face. Etc. Start not with finding out how to fix what's bad, but finding what does feel good. I had to try plenty of things I ended up not liking on my path to finding what's right for me. The rest will come.
Don't think of your gender expression, figure, or presentation as a problem to be solved as a whole. That's approaching it from the wrong direction. Start with gender experimentation, and when you find things that feel good, that's a sign to keep experimenting in that direction. If you are able, I highly recommend therapy with someone that has worked with trans people before. You might be able to find programs in your area that can help you find that if you aren't able to afford or find it on your own.
You got this <3
