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[–] GhostFace@lemmy.today 2 points 16 hours ago

Problem. Of the two transgirls I've ever liked, one instead likes really big women and the other is ace.

[–] IPeaceInYourFace@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago

Where do I find these women?

[–] cupcakezealot@piefed.blahaj.zone 34 points 1 day ago (2 children)

i mean just give a trans girls flowers too.

[–] SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 day ago

Yeah, head is nice don't get me wrong, but I'll take flowers, friendship, transition help, money. Yknow things that are actually meaningful. C'mon y'all, I'm not just a dick to suck.

[–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

Personally, I'd prefer head. Or a couple hours of Guilty Gear 1v1, even better

Edit: Strive, on the EU servers (Greece), with a mid Nago that I'd just love to play against someone who'd destroy me, freely

Hit me up on Dms if you wanna spar!

[–] cupcakezealot@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago

O.O This is exactly what I wanted!!!! Thanks!!!!

[–] KuroiKaze@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

But which version??? Strive I think would be the easiest to play while giving head

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[–] sobchak@programming.dev 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Lemmy is horniest social media I've ever used.

[–] greencoil@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

You don't use much social media, then? Is this a joke? Its literally a twitter screenshot lol.

Lemmy noticeably has very little queer horny posting. I feel like even Tumblr, with its site wide porn ban, is more publicly horny than Lemmy.

[–] halloejsovs@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Browsing "all" here has a lot of queer content compared to reddit for instance. Make of that what you will, but to cishet me, that was very apparent upon joining Lemmy.

Not much horny posting tho.

[–] sobchak@programming.dev 2 points 1 day ago

I don't. But, I don't think posts about oral sex are typically the top post on the equivalent of "All" on other social media, as this post was. I could be wrong. I routinely see sexual topics on All here (sorted by Active). Nothing wrong with it, just making an observation.

[–] NovaSel@lemmy.world 1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I don't know what "head" is supposed to mean in this context and I'm not sure if I want to

[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

So when mommy and daddy love each other so much daddy gets between the legs of mommy and kisses her a lot there. That's giving head, also applies the other way around.

[–] pmk@piefed.ca 22 points 1 day ago (3 children)

In all seriousness, how would one ask about this? Like just saying "Hey, you're trans right? Do you probably need head bad rn?" seems a bit creepy?

[–] stray@pawb.social 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think you need to go around in a shirt something like:

🌈 PRIDE DEALS 🦄

THIS MONTH ONLY 🔥🔥🔥

TRANS GIRLS GET THEIR DICKS SUCKED FREE!!

[–] masta_chief@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago

This is the world liberals want

The homosexual agenda

B I G G A Y

[–] GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"Hey what Linux distro do you use?"

If it's Nix OS you're golden. If it's Arch there's a decent chance.

[–] pmk@piefed.ca 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If they say Debian, is that a clue they aren't into brief encounters but want more of a long term relationship?

[–] JLock17@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

They expect long term support at the bare minimum.

[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

Trans ppl are way more receptive to outwardly flirtatious approaches

Edit.: Speaking about my lived experiences, trans ppl have been easier to approach.

[–] cyan_mess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 21 hours ago

Being trans correlates with being autistic, and autistic people generally appreciate directness.

[–] transarchistcuddleslut@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Trans people are not a monolith. We are people and have varying preferences.

[–] Gonzako@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

Oh, I thought you all met in the teen titans tower to discuss how to act

[–] gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org 5 points 1 day ago

my personal opinion is that the sponge sucks until it's wet

in other words, people who've already made a lot of sexual experiences in their life don't need it anymore, but people who've never had the chance to, seek it.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Unless she's not into it, of course. I had a partner who didn't want anything to do with her penis. Any sense of pleasure was overridden by the discomfort of her dysphoria.

As an alternative, she would love to be tied up and given sensory play. Ice cubes, wax, paintbrushes, roller pins, anything to produce a novel sensation would drive her wild. So yeah, your mileage may vary. Either way, bring some pleasure to the trans partner in your life today! :)

[–] TheFresh16@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Came here to say this. From the community of trans girls I know, I would guess that at least 25% can't stand acknowledgement of their bits without dissociating from dysphoria.

[–] Filetternavn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 13 hours ago

This makes me feel a lot better abt myself, tbh. I always thought I was just an extreme outlier for what I wanted done to me, and to know it's fairly common feels better. I need very specific care to not be overwhelmed by dysphoria.

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[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 66 points 2 days ago (1 children)

or let a trans girl give you head... you know either way is cool. maybe both?

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 46 points 2 days ago (2 children)
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[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago

hell yeah who wants head?

[–] TerrabyteMarx@quokk.au 45 points 2 days ago (7 children)
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[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 1 day ago (5 children)
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[–] spacegoat@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

My body is willing but my game is weak

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I need to eat more designer pussy

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

NGL I’m curious about how the new UI would work

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[–] Lehmuusa@nord.pub 20 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Are there... Ulterior motives to this post?

[–] not_IO@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

there is just one very obvious motive to this post

[–] Omnipitaph@reddthat.com 6 points 1 day ago (5 children)

If you happen to be literally anywhere in the pacific northwest of the USA, you're in driving distance...

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There are some really horny people in this post.

It's me. I'm horny 🤣

[–] Omnipitaph@reddthat.com 1 points 16 hours ago

Saxophone noises

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[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 2 days ago

I'm happy to do my part o7

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