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i kind of want a new name but its so hard to pick one. what name do i look like i would have?

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[–] AmyCatbunny@lemmy.zip 1 points 5 days ago

The first name dangling through my brain when I saw the pocs was Sudan. I don't know, why, but I think it is quite fitting 😊

[–] baka@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 days ago

Kat Meow :3

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 20 points 1 week ago (2 children)

You look like an Allison / Aly to me!

I thought this too before I came to the comments!!

[–] me_jumper@infosec.pub 3 points 1 week ago

I thought Anna, but I think that is not too common in the US. So I think I'm agreeing with this the most 😊

(Just noticed: maybe they are not in the US as well. Even I as a German think US centric online, weird.)

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago

I'm not going to suggest a name because they're deeply personal and I don't know anything about you, but I will share a story instead.

I compare it to stargazing. Picture yourself laying on a hill on a calm night looking up at the night sky. The first thing you see is a scattering of stars, far too many to count. As you look around, you even start to notice the far away ones. But then you realize that they all shine differently. After a few minutes you start to pick out the brightest ones, about a dozen or so. Your eyes dart back and forth between them trying to connect them mentally. After doing this for a bit, you notice yourself bouncing back to the same 3 or 4 stars that seem to shine the brightest. You keep looking around trying to give each star a fair shot, but your eyes somehow always wander back to those brightest stars. Eventually, given enough time, you'll notice something peculiar about one in particular. Maybe it's the brightest, or the largest, or it has a slight tint that sets it apart. That is your star.

The stars represent countless possibilities, and the brightest one is your name. It takes time, don't rush it.

[–] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You're super pretty, wow!

Maybe Amanda? Sophie? Kayleigh?

Idk this is so random 😭

[–] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Sophie's pretty good, I don't really like eigh names and i feel like im the wrong generation for amanda. I'll definitely add sophie to my list though

[–] Shirow@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Sophie/ Sophia came to my mind too, Emelyn (probably too French?) Somehow I could an Amy too? 😊

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[–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)
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[–] lena@gregtech.eu 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Kate/Katy.

Also, nice kitty. I demand more cat tax.

Ooh I'd spell it katie but I like that.

Here's roof cat

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[–] Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

oooooh i like that. i could be just like the best bob's burgers character

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 week ago

I couldn't remember who that was and had to look her up. The limo driver!

[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

You look like a Sarah to me :) like you should be surrounded by flowers

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I see a camera! Tell me more! Show your work! You have the attention of a lifelong devoted photographer.

Also, I’m Tanis, pronounced TAH-niss, and there needs to be more of me with that name in the world!

[–] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 week ago (3 children)

That's my Pentax P3.

I'm not a great photographer, but here are a couple of my favorite photos I've taken with that camera

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[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

You’ve got a solid eye for composition! Keep it up!

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Just saying, blahaj zone has a fediverse based photography instance http://photos.blahaj.zone/

I'd love to see more people upgrading photos there than just me :)

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[–] Calfpupa@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Mackenzie

Edit: my wife says Sophie

[–] Lehmuusa@nord.pub 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I wonder if this is of any help... But sometime parents have names planned before the child is born, and they might have had thought of two. Have you asked them if you had a female name before your birth?

In any case... Damn, you've got style! And sorry I cannot be useful with directly suggesting names. My mother tongue is not English, so all names I'd intuitively come up with would be all weird for an English-speaker.

[–] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 1 week ago (7 children)

I wanted to do that, but when I tried to come out to my parents my mom started saying like "well my identity is having a son!!" so now im just pretending to not be trans around them

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 week ago

β€œwell my identity is having a son!!”

[–] HumanOnEarth@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Wow.

Well as a dad, I hereby officially declare you as fine just the way you are.

It's ok to struggle as a parent with your kid's sexuality/identity if you don't fully understand things. It's NOT ok to make it about yourself and stand in between your child and happiness.

Tell your mom an internet stranger said "shame on you" and bonus points if you throw a handful of glitter in the air as you walk away.

Edit: Taylor?

[–] Blibly@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago

Jesus christ how pathetic of your mom. hugs

[–] mech@feddit.org 6 points 1 week ago

Poor woman, she had a 50% chance of having to live with no identity at all.

[–] thisisbutaname@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

My mom said that if I'd been born a girl my name would have been Alice. I don't need it, so you can have it if you want

[–] grue@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

But @thisisbutaname, if you give up your name you'll have nothing left!

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[–] TechieDamien@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 week ago

I'm picking up Amy vibes from you. No matter what you pick though, there is no wrong name. I deliberated on mine for years, but in retrospect I was just stalling. Congratulations on finding the courage to come out, and sorry to hear your family not taking it well. I'm all too familiar with that sting of betrayal myself. If you ever need to talk or vent, we are all here for you!

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 week ago

Check out name meanings and find one that fits with what y'all want.

Alternatively since one of us is a fae we could give you a name we have ~~stolen~~ been given.

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 3 points 1 week ago

Lauren, Rachael, or Sophie/Sophia/Sofia

[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago

Ivy. That's what came to my mind. Good luck in your quest for a name.

[–] Shayeta@feddit.org 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

In my view, there isn't a "perfect name". There is just a big bucket of good names. You pick a name and then throughout your life you make that name yours.

Your "perfect name" isn't picked, it is built. That is why it's hard to choose. Because none of these names are really yours yet.

[–] matchaotter@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 week ago
[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Il just going with what my parents probably would have picked. My grandmother's names (for myself obviously). You could always look through the top 100 names for the year you were born and see if anything grabs your attention.

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[–] Hoimo@ani.social 2 points 1 week ago

Fuck, I thought I had an original name to add. I know a Heather who looks exactly like OP. It's a great name, kinda outdoorsy, not too common or too clichΓ© imo.

[–] Luci@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

We can all give you suggestions, but what names were you feeling? Those are the best names to choose from.

[–] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

These are my favorites far, not really in any order

  • chloe
  • emily
  • taylor
  • kate/katie
  • sophie
  • eleanor/elle/ellie
  • sarah
  • emma
  • cassandra/cassie/cass
  • natalie
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[–] biggeoff@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm a fan of Brooke β™₯️

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