i kind of want a new name but its so hard to pick one. what name do i look like i would have?
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I wonder if this is of any help... But sometime parents have names planned before the child is born, and they might have had thought of two. Have you asked them if you had a female name before your birth?
In any case... Damn, you've got style! And sorry I cannot be useful with directly suggesting names. My mother tongue is not English, so all names I'd intuitively come up with would be all weird for an English-speaker.
I wanted to do that, but when I tried to come out to my parents my mom started saying like "well my identity is having a son!!" so now im just pretending to not be trans around them
Wow.
Well as a dad, I hereby officially declare you as fine just the way you are.
It's ok to struggle as a parent with your kid's sexuality/identity if you don't fully understand things. It's NOT ok to make it about yourself and stand in between your child and happiness.
Tell your mom an internet stranger said "shame on you" and bonus points if you throw a handful of glitter in the air as you walk away.
Edit: Taylor?
Jesus christ how pathetic of your mom. hugs
Poor woman, she had a 50% chance of having to live with no identity at all.
My mom said that if I'd been born a girl my name would have been Alice. I don't need it, so you can have it if you want
But @thisisbutaname, if you give up your name you'll have nothing left!
...huh!
That is awful! You're seriously unlucky with your parents. But you've got so much strength in you to be able to ask these questions. And to answer to my comment.
Admirable!
Uff, sorry to hear that. Hope they will come around and educate themself a bit about you. Best of luck, Emma (?)