Ask Lemmy

There is meaning in life. It's what you make it. The meaning of life is to give life meaning.

My life has meaning. It has meaning for no other reason than I say it does, and no one gets to decide that for me. I do not purport to speak for your life, or the lives of those I care about, or my cat’s life, or my neighbors, the birds, trees, grass, germs, or any other living thing. I do not assign meaning to society, civilizations large or small, or things that have been built to benefit me. I can only speak for my life. And I say that my life has meaning. Nothing that has happened to me, nothing that has been said, done, built or destroyed, can take that meaning away from my life without my permission.

A life has no meaning in the same way that a blank piece of paper has no meaning. I give that piece of paper meaning by writing, sketching, coloring, folding, tearing…and perhaps ultimately destroying. Now that piece of paper has a unique history imprinted on it. It can be shared, displayed, hidden, or thrown away. But the whole reason I did anything to the paper at all was because it was meaningful in the moment for me to do so.

Optimistic nihilism is the way to go. We make our own meaning.

Invent your own meaning. Don't listen to people who assert you should live life a certain way to fit their meaning.

I'm glad there isn't a meaning to life. If there was a meaning, then I'd have to be doing that thing or be failing at existence. If no act matters, then I'm equally valid for doing my goofy nonsense as I am working hard or whatever.

There’s a song about this, at the end of Life of Brian.

Step 1: find your gifts

Step 2: share them with the world

Might I also suggest DMT

Sounds like you're in the Pessimistic Nihilist stage, you just need to process things and then progress yourself to either Absurdist Nihilist or Optimistic Nihilist

WDYM? The meaning of life is to cuddle dogs. 🤷‍♂️

I've never even quite understood what it is that people are thinking about when they refer to "the meaning of life." I mean - I know the definition - I know what the phrase is intended to communicate. I just don't get what it is that people actually expect.

I don't think I ever even considered the idea of life having some sort of intrinsic meaning until I was old enough to start getting into philosophy and discovered that not only do people believe that life has some intrinsic meaning, but that it's such a common belief that there's a sort of reflexive negative view of anyone who doesn't share that belief.

In spite of that, I saw and still see no reason to believe that life has intrinsic meaning (either empirically, logically or even psychologically) and more than enough reason to believe that it does not.

Now none of that's to say that my life is meaningless. It's stuffed full of meaning. It's just that all of that meaning is things I've found and adopted - none of it's intrinsic, nor does it need to be.

And I still don't really understand why anyone believes that it does need to be intrinsic. How is all of the meaning they're free to find and adopt not enough?

For whatever any of thaty worth...

I’m an absurdist so I just hope the punchline is good

Just because there is no pre-planned, external meaning doesn't mean your life has no meaning.

Many people find meaning in family, friends, careers, projects, experiences, or just general enjoyment of life.

I really like that poem "Ozymandias", by Percy Bysshe Shelley. The point of it is: no matter what kind of outsized impact you have on the world when you're alive, eventually no trace of you will remain, and everything you ever were and everything you've ever done will be forgotten.

It's a heavy, depressing message, but I find it to be oddly freeing. If nothing you do will matter in the very long run, then you're free to do whatever you want. Maybe you decide that you don't care about the people 25,000 years from now and focus instead on the people in your life right now. Maybe you make it your goal to make their lives better.

You could succumb to depression and fall into a pit of despair and heavy drug use... but if nothing matters, why not spend your time making other people's lives better instead? It feels good to make other people feel good.

I mean, there is no meaning in nature, it was man who invented it

This is how. I deal with it by inventing meaning. I'm not content with the natural state of nature, and actively seek to make the world better.

If nothing matters then you have nothing to lose

The thing that shook me out of the existential crisis of understanding nihilism is that life had as much meaning before I was born as it will after my death.

Or in other words: we are the universe exploring itself - in playful exploration and/or aesthetic creation.

To me that gives license to do something interesting with the short time, resources and attention that I have available. I find experiencing new things or in new combinations fulfilling, as do I to help others make a positive contribution to the human experience (be it through positive societal change or practicing kindness).

The same way you do, I would imagine, by occupying our mind with stuff that keeps us from thinking about it too much.

There not being a meaning to life doesn't imply that it can't be meaningful.

Life is an open world sandbox multiplayer game with very little absolute rules on how it should be played.

I make my own reasons, motivations and goals

I think everyone goes through this... well, most people, anyway. Such is the burden of intelligent awareness--you know other animals don't worry about this shit. And, therein lies a clue.

But that's the best part of life! This way you can make whatever the fuck you want out of it and change your idea at any point as many times as you want.

I pick a simple goal: have a good day. Then I generalize that: try to have as many good days as possible relative to bad days. You can generalize it further and try to ensure other people have good days too, if you're the empathetic sort.

Meaning is whatever you want it to be. You have the free will to create your own meaning in your life.

That being said, reading your post, I mean no disrespect, but please seek professional help. This goes beyond "finding your own meaning" and dives into "something is wrong".

If my life has no meaning, then I can do with it whatever I want.

I think the problem, to be quite honest with you, is that you've never actually known what the question is.

My meaning of life is to keep myself as distracted as possible until I die.

Instead of making a post about it. I suggest you seek professional help.

what you are describing is the economic situation.

on the free market, the thing that is profitable is always the thing that there should be more of (according to market pressures). this is universally true across all branches of economy. if you open up a company that sells shoes, and nobody else has any shoes, then you can sell your product at a high profit margin. but if there are already 2 million shoes for 1 million people, then you will have a difficult time selling yours as well, so it's not profitable for you at all.

the same happens with the "beautiful woman" example that you cited. the reason why you think that you have to be with her now, urgently, is because there is too few of them. so there should be more of them, and that's why it's profitable to strive to be with them, if you get what i mean. in a certain sense, by doing so, you are in fact helping to make sure that there will be more like her in the future, because by striving to be with her, you are increasing the average number of children that she is going to have.

so, you can look at things through the free market perspective, which is largely equivalent to yours, but has the added benefit that there are a lot of clever people having developed very useful tools to analyze it in the past.

There is meaning in life. Every action causes an reaction. We all influence the universe and history in ways we might never know.

Life is a big improv stage. Now you decide which character and role you play!

I never understood why life has to have "meaning".

Eat, fuck, make babies. That's it.

To have meaning imposed on one's life by another is to be their tool. Freedom is deciding your own meaning, or being content with none at all.

Create your own meaning.

It is a blessing that life has no meaning. You can give it any meaning you want without having to delude yourself from the "right" meaning.

Your life meaning could be charity, attempting to reach the pinnacle of your hobby, teaching and empowering others, success, dismantling tyrrany, competition (like that in sports and other hobbies), creation and building, etc. Find one that you believe in, and help others to find theirs

You can choose multiple, but many is too great of a burden to carry.

Love.

... And being ok with a bittersweet life.