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The fun part is when you are involved and it still happens

This is some boomer shit

When my daughter was born, my wife and I would take turns caring for her through the night. She pumped breast milk so I had access to food as needed on my nights, and she could breastfeed directly on her nights.

It soon became clear that our daughter preferred direct breastfeeding to the bottle, but I was much better at calming her and getting her back to sleep. The result was that I ended up covering my wife's nights more frequently because she was otherwise at home with the baby all day while I was at work and felt like she needed the break. I was also "used" to sleep deprivation from the past years when I was working full-time while also going to college full-time, and she would stay home and watch TV, read, or paint.

I was constantly exhausted for the first 6 months, until she was mostly able to sleep through most nights. I would regularly apologize to my coworkers for my reduced cognitive ability because I didn't get any sleep the previous night or two, and my boss would express how he didn't understand how I was still vertical. Thankfully they were all very understanding and accommodating, and I was at least still able to get most of my work done to our standard of quality, albeit much more slowly than usual.

I didn't have time, opportunity, or energy to even consider the prospect of intimacy at that time, so I absolutely sympathize with new mothers with absentee partners that have normal levels of energy and libido.

A dude I used to work with left his wife to deal with the newborn.

It was so bad between dayshifts that he used to leave the house at 2am and just sit in a motorway service station with a coffee for a few hours just to get some peace before coming to work.

If I tried that, my other half would stab me in the face.

I dont think that is true tbh dads nowadays take care of babies as much as moms even after doing job and everything

This was funny like 60 years ago

Women do get a shitload more time off work for it than men, so they kinda have to be the one doing most of the childcare regardless of what either parent actually wants.

Friend of ours recently had another child, she is getting most of a year off, he got a couple weeks.

The meme isn't judging all men, people. It's calling out a specific behavior and attitude. Not sure why people are so upset. Unless you actually do this, of course.

My husband was a champ. He worked full-time and also stayed up at night manually pumping my breast milk while I was sleeping, and he'd wake up with th baby & fed the baby & changed diapers & he cooked meals too! The only thing he didn't do is clean and that's okay cuz I loved cleaning.

I dunno, my ex was ok with the kids, and I was able to sleep & nurse at the same time (small boobs) but breastfeeding knocked my libido down to less than zero. Usually I run pretty hot, but while nursing it was like I couldn't care at all about sex, it felt like a chore, and when we did, I had both fear (because childbirth) and had to work just to get to a baseline level of desire at all. I always figured it was a natural birth control thing, nature helping so kids don't come too close together.

"She wanted a divorce out of nowhere!" - Every deadbeat dad.

Men, if you don't want kids, get your tubes tied. Most insurances cover it. Just do it. Don't wait for the "right time", just get it done.

Seems like a lot of trouble could be avoided if people who don't actually want to take on the responsibilities of parenting stop reproducing.

I always wonder what kind of point one wishes to make and what kind of responds they expect.

I wish I could say this wasn’t my exact experience.
Tack on the lack of any romantic overtures and it’s pretty much how it went though.

An issue with post-interstate USA is the ability to move away from family for education and work, also fragmented the extended family. Managing life, everything and a under-6 month old infant takes way more than two people. (Day care in many areas will accept an infant at 6 weeks, which while huge, is also problematic.)

I expect the only solution is get rich and help your kids with the grand kids. (UBI!)

None of this is an excuse to fuck off and not help. It is pathetic when men say "and I never changed a diaper". Hardly a parent at all at that point.