Autism

Yeah Reddit is a giant pile of dogshit. Good riddance.

I have to ask, did your friend get told to kill themselves because of being a gay autistic furry or was it for something else?

I think you're probably implying that is it, but I've been told on reddit to kill myself for all kinds of things that are less interesting than that.

It's obvious that Reddit hates disabled people since they killed alt front-ends for the blind community a while back.

lol no one here is going to say anything nice about reddit

Yeah, Reddit is a shithole.

You sure said it. Society in general isn't too friendly to disabled individuals

Yeah reddit is a cesspool. I've gotten death threats for having a profile pic that looked vaguely furry. The guy who made the death threats got a slap on the wrist.

Meanwhile my account caught a 3 day ban for joking about mosquitoes getting cancer, and then a perm ban for saying that Nazis are losers. Reddit is a fascist supporting platform and the sooner it goes down in flames, the better.

Whoof, yikes, yeah.

Reddit is just chock full of random harassment.

We've gotten some here too but it's not anywhere NEAR as bad. Here we feel relatively safe using 'we' and signing our messages. We've mostly stopped using 'we' on reddit and I get the occasional mocking comments about signing my name.

-- Frost

You know how there is this trope of people with little power in their lives abusing service industry workers? I feel like the behavior you describe is kind of like that. People go online and be way ruder than they would be irl, because they can. They can't empathize with the person on the other side, or they don't care and are happy to have an outlet without consequences.

I mostly assume replies are not actually to me, they are just people who want to hear themselves talk. Makes it a bit less frustrating.

Reddit sucks, but also who cares what some bridge troll who lives in a van down by the river thinks?

I feel like a lot of the unkindness and meanness is manufactured on purpose to divide us, I don't think real people are actually that way all the time like they are on reddit, genuine kindness is rare, it wasn't always like that at all, Reddit used to be exactly like here.

I left reddit after the reddit blackout happened. Permanently. I didn't purge my old posts but… I'm gone and not returning until the blind community forgives them. (API changes, lots of non seeing moderators lost their ability to interact with the site. There was a blackout in protest and reddit used it for routine maintenance)

reddit will have been going hard since last year, i wouldnt put it as a personal vendetta from reddit. they ban very heavily for random things, especially if even imply certain things that can be misconstrued as something potentiall violating.

They are all crypto fascist trash, pretending to be left-wing.

Reddit should get struck by Iran next.

Yea Lemmy isn't much better.

I've certainly had negative interactions on Lemmy and elsewhere.

With reddit… I'm not blaming you, but communities are how they are. Different subreddits are different.

If you're posting in /r/autism and experiencing that, then I'd perhaps suspect the issue might be more on your end - how you're presenting yourself. That said, there are a lot of toxic places on reddit, for sure.

I'm essentially no longer on reddit, but I was there since 2009. I still say things that get downvotes. Mostly silly jokes that whoosh over peoples' heads, but sometimes just randomly. It might be my fault some of the time, but it's definitely just the way it goes. Sometimes I make a comment and expect downvotes but get upvotes; and sometimes expect upvotes and get downvotes.

Also, "reddit" doesn't tell anyone anything. Users on the site certainly do. They're individuals deciding what to say, just like here - I am not Lemmy telling you any of this, I'm me. And if I was on reddit talking to you, I'd still be me.

That said, before I almost-completely withdrew from participating in reddit, I browsed /r/all on old.reddit using RES to filter out so so very many toxic subs (and subs I wasn't interested in).

There's plenty of neurospicy people on reddit (I was / limited-still-am one).

wendyz Reddit has a real problem with being built around oversized, hyperactive spaces, and sround tyrany of the majority thanks to their up/downvote mechanics. This resulte in a space where being early to a discussion and then dunking on someone or on some unpopular strawman gets you not just attention, but also a metacurrency that grants you access to more "discerning" spaces.

When communities become too big, thy just become voids to scream into, because no one is reading the comments. They're just trying to get noticed. That turns them into deeply toxiv plates that turn on anyone trying to have an actual discussion about things.

Except maybe one or 2 communities that I know of it's all pretty agressive on reddit really. As soon as you write something that looks like it might get downvotes everyone jumps on the mean wagon to internet points.

I get it, by the way. Redshitters, as you said you called them, flamed me for asking how I know if I'm a lesbian or not and they called it a dumb question and removed my post and everyone downvoted it.

Smaller communities can afford to be more inclusive as there is more space for attention and one to one engagement. Larger communities don't have the attention span etc.

Rambly and hard to comprehend posts and writing styles do worse and you must distrust any one poster much more as trolling, fetish larping etc. Is so very common.