It seems like I need to clear something up here as I have not seen any screenshots of the modlog that show which mod took actions against your content so here is one from https://phtn.app/modlog?user=23220995 where you can see who took action in the modlog:

Here you can clearly see that I did in fact not take action against your posts on !digitalart@lemmy.world and only against your posts in !imaginarymerfolk@lemmy.dbzer0.com. I have maybe taken one action as a mod in the Digital Art community in my time as mod so I was never really an active mod of that community.
And as a few people already mentioned: yes I meant that you can contact people through built-in direct messages here on Lemmy. And it's really not hard to find, just click on the profile of a user and the button is right there:

I hope this clears everything up.
Edit: And the reason why I didn't appeal the ban or didn't take any further action is because I don't want to be a mod in that community anyway and want nothing to do with this. I took like 1 minute to figure out what happened and just summarized it to you to make it clear why you were banned by someone else and then took action on the posts in my own community. And because I was the one who responded I'm now dragged through the mud. I find it horrible how I'm accused of being queerphobic/homophobic/transphobic by people without them knowing the full story.
Edit2: Here are screenshots from the modlog to see my activity in that community and how I've tried to remove myself as mod multiple times:








