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Omg yeah, the system does not want disabled people married!!! Once a disabled person marries, their disability income gets cut and chore services gets cut. What a load of bs, both partners need to have an income in this stupid economy just to be able to live and a partner will absolutely burnout without support. It's the main reason I can't marry. If I marry, I essentially lose all of my benefits (also how is a limit of $3k in total assets for a married couple fair?!). Disabled people are penalized for having any type of savings or assets like life insurance ffs. Even with chore services, insurance will makeup excuses like some hypothetical person is providing free support and thus they don't give as many hours. Getting paid is a mess because of the EVV crap to "prevent fraud" aka just more spyware embedded in your phone. I've actually heard of people getting legal divorces just to get around this crap. Also people like me who can't get married but are terrified of being found to be "holding out" on marriage which can cause benefits to be cut completely. I've read articles on people having children out of wedlock (not that there is anything wrong with that) simply because of the disability welfare system. IT SUCKS.

That sounds really rough, sorry you are going through this. I am also on disability and welfare and have a caregiver partner (so my benefits meant for 1 person have to be stretched for 2), but I do not have children (let alone disabled children). I'm guessing your wife isn't able to eat the seitan after all? That sucks. Seitan is chewier than tofu or tempeh but you know your kids the best. I hope you hang in there. You are doing your best and it is appreciated. I've read about caregiver burnout before, the suffering the people around us go through is awful. Fuck the system we live in.

I could imagine vegans being upset if you weren't vegan solely because your wife and kids can't be (like they are a shield or something, idk). Modern veganism should be about harm reduction. I know someone mentioned beans but I think seitan has more protein per punch (has more than steak according to a random google, *forgot about the carb limit tho, it looks like it wouldn't go over too much but depends on the source). I don't have much experience with your family's conditions. I need a bunch of fiber or else I get severely constipated, I was shocked at how little your wife gets. Sorry you got hate for your wife and kids. It sounds like your wife was (is?) in a bad spot, I hope her recovery gets better.

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That is terrible but I am not surprised. I do not trust porn made with real women in it, there isn't a way to verify the women in the videos are not being abused or coerced into making porn. Unfortunately, I have found lemmy to also be weird when it comes to certain subjects like this. It's not just trying to be sex positive or supportive of sex workers, it's more like they don't want their porn treats taken away or criticized.

I get what you're saying except I am the opposite. I used to do everything analog, but carrying and reading books became too painful. The school or public library used to be my favorite place. I used to draw a lot in analog too, but that became too painful. Nowadays if I want to read, it has to be digital or it won't be comfortable and too painful. I like being able to resize text and easily search for things. I am also getting more into audiobooks or TTS. I hate when I am asked to write with a pencil and paper, my handwriting has become shit too.

a single conviction I hold requires me to leave: That the existence of antisemitism means it is ok for a state run by zionists to steal land and use violent oppression against the people already living there. I am unable to imagine Jewish people living and forming communities anywhere else peacefully. I don't agree with the way Israel was formed or how it has operated since its violent formation, but the peaceful solution is to... continue operating a state that "defends" itself through unnecessary violence

Smh. Not only is this the wrong community, but this is just a terrible take. You should reflect on yourself and remove your brainworms.

This is the wrong community for this and completely off-topic. This community is not for rants, shower thoughts, ask lemmy type questions, unpopular opinions, etc. Please read the rules before commenting. I am going to lock this for now. If you would like to talk about specific instances of your comments or posts being removed or being banned, along with screenshots of your modlog, then that would be more acceptable.

Skill issue.

I think when people who struggle with depression and other mental health issues get into arguments online, it can feel like everyone hates us or are specifically being mean for no reason. But when you step back, you realize you talked to maybe 4 people. And that this thread and argument didn't have anything to do with why you were so upset and getting emotional, you were just stressed about something else. And not in the best head space to be talking about these type of discussions. I can only guess that you have been struggling. That sucks. This thread is probably not the best place for you right now and that is ok.

I know you mentioned you consider yourself liberal, we view things from a more leftist perspective. It's ok to ask questions and learn and reflect on ourselves. And also ok to take a break, a breather, and do some self-care.

Already reported for antisemitism, can't make this shit up lol

Edit: and now racism. The brainworms are activating.

Please respect the disengage rule.

The creator did go through an unplanned pregnancy and miscarriage with an ex-girlfriend in college. The relationship was toxic according to him and this happened years before loss was published.