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Same with IT, also been a fan of technology and computers and its nice when I get to use those skills/passions at work.
Just wish I didn't hate the company I worked for and didn't have to go into an office to do it. (Considering I did the same job WFH for 4 years until they forced us back)
Iβve done martial arts for 30 years.
Iβve taught for 20. Owned for 11 of those.
Honestly, it was all great until Covid. I love teaching, Iβve been lucky enough to have some great athletes and competitors.
But parents suck. 90 minutes of karate and kickboxing a week are not going to fix your little twat waffle. Stop being a friend and discipline your children.
I was really passionate about math for years, and I spent most of my free time on it. When I got to grad school and I had to do it to survive my passion dried up. I think it became harder to have fun when I knew I wouldn't be free to put a project down if I wanted to, and when math stopped being fun I stopped being good at it.
I passed all my coursework and exams but I burned out before finishing my dissertation and dropped out seven years into my phd program. It's six years later and I still barely touch it. I passed qualifying exams in algebraic topology and today if you asked me to compute a homology group I'd be clueless.
I'm not going to discount that monetizing your passions works for some people, but the experience of finding out you're not one of those people is soul-crushing.
My husband is a chef.
My husband cooked two meals for me in our first year dating(I will never forget him making steak for me in his boxers at midnight never, absolutely amazing). He's not cooked for me since. I am okay with this arrangement. Sometimes, he cant even be in the kitchen when Im doing prep lol I totally get it.
That's sad to hear.
Always, yes, but thankfully I have a very wide scope.
Definitely somewhat, but not so much "diminished my enjoyment" as "prevents me from doing as a hobby".
Programmer here, and I find that working on these types of problems just wears out that "part" of my brain. It becomes not fun to force myself to focus on those things as a hobby anymore, despite that being how I got into programming. I don't resent it though, I actually really enjoy doing it as my job. And shake it up a little, and I'll hugely enjoy something like programming systems in Factorio, but any ambitions in have of say, making a game, aren't happening until I retire or change careers.
I love IT and cybersecurity and I've worked in it for years and it has not diminished my love for the hobby. It did make me realize that I hate working in it because it does not actually contain a lot of the things I enjoy and it mostly has corporate BS.
I would rather call it a side gig than a job, but I stopped learning new songs or practicing bass guitar after I started doing session and live musicianship. 95% of the "musicians" and "producers" know jackshit about their craft but always talk big. I love playing heavy metal music, but there are practically no one in where I live that can do something meaningful about it.
Not really actually I was pretty compulsive about my hobbies and they feel all integrated and more fulfilling now I guess
Programmer turned photographer turned back to programmer.
I was really enjoying the online photography scene the 2000s and early 2010s. I used to do street photography, ask interesting people to take their portrait, blag a press pass and take photos of up and coming bands ("sure why not" is a crazy answer to "can I inexpertly point my flash directly at Florence Welch as she performs her last tiny gig before stardom").
I started doing work for wannabe models (ModelMayhem mostly) and from that got requests to do paid personal events, eg weddings and engagements. Especially when I moved abroad to places where I was basically self employed, this was a nice little occasional gig. But it was work. Regardless of why they chose me, they wanted their photos to look the current fashionable way, they wanted them by a certain date, they wanted specific moments and they wanted them perfect even if they weren't perfect in real life. It sucked all the fun and creativity from it.
Coupled with the overloading of the internet with (elitist snob coming) mundane and repetitive photography content and the death of discussion and appreciation of thoughtful photography, it eroded my love for it on both ends.
I'm old and have kids now, I'm trying to get back into it. It's hard to build back up that courage to take out a camera and snap a photo. Before it marked you as unusual, but at least as potentially an expert or artist. There was a percentage of people willing to give you the benefit of the doubt. It seems these days that like many "democratised" things, putting extra effort into something seems to be heavily discouraged and denigrated as elitist. And I think just in general a 40-something with a camera does not get the benefit of the doubt that a 20-something used to. I'm hoping it swings around again as I hit proper old age, just a harmless old weirdo with a DSLR.
How long have you been doing it? I went from science to IT and for 10 or 15 years it was still fun as a hobby but I have been doing it for 25 years and in the last 10 I generally want to have things that work without to much fuss for my personal time.
That could be a valid point and I certainly appreciate the value in a clear separation. It's been my hobby since 1981 when I got my first computer, and aside from a poor six months working in a support job in the 90s, it's only been my main career for 7 or 8 years. My colleagues are a mixture of those who like to selfhost and fiddle in their spare time too, and those who actively avoid technology.
Im curious if the ones who avoid have been doing it a long time vs the ones who self host. I don't feel I avoid technology but I do avoid a lot of enshitified stuff like I don't like smart phones and I prefer to spend my free time in nature and away from technology. I mean I do use a linux laptop now and most all programs I use are open source but like because I like stuff to just work I use an out of the box distro although I may change to bazzite but more for the image base than gaming per se.
DevOps here. I still really like programming and systems administration, but I'm so burnt out I can't do anything anymore after 8h+ of work. It has gotten to the point that I hate computers so much, I favor going out into nature over fixing my broken Linux install of my desktop for several months now. I'd love to write software again but my brain can't do it.
I credit SRE with starting my hiking hobby. Never liked being in nature until I was forced to sit in front of a computer screen for 40-60 hours a week and some weekends.
Now I've been to a dozen national parks, about as much state parks and one of the few joys I get is planning the next outing.
Thanks for your experience. I've certainly felt like that at times, and some nights definitely don't want to do it - so then I turn to other hobbies that aren't related, but I keep coming back to it.
This is 100% me as a SWE. I loved working on my own projects as a teen. Now Iβm weary and my love for it has been displaced by rage and frustration lol. Last thing Iβd think of doing after work.
I got into computing early on (high school Fortran programming on punch cards, lol) and really loved it, more so when we switched to BASIC the second year. I decided to pursue that as my career as well and really enjoyed it until retirement. What I think took some fun out of it was my dealings with corporate structure. I think the thing to remember is the seperation between that thing you love and the system that you have to work within to achieve success.
God, you must be even older than I am! We did Basic at school, and our teacher showed us punch cards, and tape, but we never actually used them - BBC B's being the tool of that time. Those were great times - genuinely pushing the boundaries of the possible, spending hours hand optimising code to save a few bytes or cycles, all with only printed manuals as reference. Understood about corporate structure, and for me also, some individuals can really affect the subject (I detest rudeness in particular)
I really loved programming back then too. And don't forget arrogance and self promotion (though maybe covered under rude).
You only have to work within a system for success within that system. Alternatives are just waiting for your participation. A better world is possible.
Back when I started it was the norm to get a job with whoever would hire you so that you get the experience to grow and improve your lot in life. I was in a field where if I wanted to move I could get a new job right away. This led to the enviable position to work in a number of different industries, which taught me so much about business and industry. Along the way I worked for some great people but ultimately I would encounter some pretty questionable practices/points of view that were discouraging. As much as I'm sure today's world is a much different experience, the ability to collaborate with strangers I think is a game changer. My brain doesn't function well enough now to survive in this environment but I agree that this can lead to positive change. One caveat is that it allows both good and bad actors to excel.
Absolutely yes.
I've dreamt of making movies and theater plays. I got into internships after finishing school and it was going good, I just started hating it. I hated movies, I couldn't see them without thinking of all the misery behind the scenes. I hated TV. I hated theater.
I stopped after a year and went to university. It ruined something else for me, but at least, after a while, I was able to enjoy movies again.
Not really. It means I have access to devices and tools I simply could not afford as a hobbyist. It means I can go to trade fairs and seminars paid for by my boss. It means I can get materials for my hobby at large customer discount prices.
I'd love to try working at a radio station or a record store, just to do something related to music
I think the difference is that it was already your passion rather than a hobby.
Yes, definitely - and perhaps I should have including that as I think I was also asking, "Can work kill that passion"?
I'd say no. As they say, find your passion, and if you make money using that passion, you're good for life.
Mmm, but they also say to keep your work and personal life separate.
I reckon that applies when you're working for a company but freelance (or own company) you may inevitably start to overlap public and private life.
Yes, and no.
Some jobs were hell and some were amazing, but I was always happiest cooking for the family (kids are grown and gone, so now it's mostly the two of us).
I like the diversity of what I can prep at home, sometimes (when we're flat out at the restaurant) seeing what i can week out that's good with no ingredients.
Basically it's the different challenges at home vs. the daily grind that make the difference for me. Some days I like the consistency that work brings, and sometimes it's just something to check off a list so I can get home and do 'some real food'.
So your job is cooking?
Basically itβs the different challenges at home vs. the daily grind that make the difference for me.
That makes a lot of sense. A lot of the 'stress' of my job comes from people - asking permission, considering stakeholders, working around their needs - that it's quite freeing to "JFDI" something, knowing that it's only me that cares or is affected.
The venn diagram between "work" and "play" for me has a lot of intersecting area, but the distinctions are mostly clear. Guessing it's the same for you - especially with the extra depth that cooking for family involves.
Absolutely, it's amazing how much each spect of the career has different disciplines - for example when you can set up an event from soup to nuts, so to speak: Make a menu, get a budget, get the product, gat the cooks to produce it, execute the event, and then reconcile the costs, feedback from the guests (and your boss/business owner) and have everything go as planned has each its own sense of satisfaction and heartburn.
This year marks 40 years, everything from McDonald's to 4* 5 Diamond restaurants, several countries and 3 continents, which finally led to us opening a humble little BBQ joint ran by just us 2 (and a couple neighbor kids during high season) and it took all that experience (and, luck!) to survive the opening 4 months before COVID, lol.
Cooking at home is more simplified, and more satisfying.
Oof, that must have been brutal. I understand the satisfaction and still try to recognise and store up the good days, but something like Covid is a blindsider that took so many businesses out.
Hospitality here in the UK suffered hugely, even to the extent that the government created an ill-founded system called "eat out to help out" and paid people to eat at restaurants. (And did cause more spreading of the virus). I'm lucky to live close to several good food pubs, but they're still struggling and gradually closing as costs rise.