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If you started a job that was close to your hobby, has that diminished your love for it? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 days ago by digdilem@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've heard this before, but haven't found it the case personally. I started work in manual jobs and messing around with computers was my evening hobby. Many years later, I now do IT as a job (partly from gaining skills from that hobby) but also have continued it as my primary thing to do when I'm not working. I was worried when I changed into this career that my hobby would become too much like work to be enjoyable, but I've not found that.

Is this the same for other people, or am I unusual in doing something in my off hours that's so close to my career? I'm genuinely curious to know if others have found the same or whether they found another hobby.

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[–] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

My husband is a chef.

My husband cooked two meals for me in our first year dating(I will never forget him making steak for me in his boxers at midnight never, absolutely amazing). He's not cooked for me since. I am okay with this arrangement. Sometimes, he cant even be in the kitchen when Im doing prep lol I totally get it.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Can he not be in the kitchen due to work trauma or because you arent doing it like in the kitchen and he feels like it's a wrong workflow?

[–] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

naw, he just has worked in kitchens for over 15 years. If he watches me prep, it just reminds him of work.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 12 hours ago

Understandable.

I just imagine the possible reasons for why
Does your prep annoy him so much because it could be done in X ways faster and with less work but he doesnt want to steal your joy in food prep
or
You remind him in how you work of his trainees and essentially stays quiet to keep the peace at home

Either way, the internet stranger wishes you a good week :)

[–] digdilem@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 day ago

That's sad to hear.