i wana have..... just one friend who's a bit fem..... just one......,.......... don't even have to be close friends.,... just someone I may see sometime.....
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Don't give up. I run a nonprofit for queer men in the South, where you wouldn't expect one. We've picked up a couple of femboys who both thought they wouldn't fit in, and everyone accepted them immediately, and they met each other, and now they have femboy friends. Even in a small conservative state where there's no femboy culture.
Unfortunately without orgs like ours I think Grindr and the like are the best option and those aren't fun places for anyone, but they can still work, you just have to ignore a lot of shit.
PS if you're a queer man (including femboys) who wants to see something like this in your area, let me know, we are trying to find the right people to start satellite chapters. We have a working model, just needs a bit of time investment each week to get running.
...,..... isnt grindr for men >~< ,.,....,, aaaaaa
Have you looked into vrchat?
I....... tried it. many times.
but its always just super loud and annoying and stuff and its exhausting doing VR stuff and....... and stuff.... and also ita proprietary and..... imean, at that point Lemmy and matrix r better.
i dont wanna be... "hanging out" on a platform like that...
also.... I gotta be not loudly talking which is quite the constraint....
Aww, sweety :(
I hope you find lots of friends around you soon!
Why stop at one fem friend, the more the merrier.
sure, more would be great...
but not very realistic for me.... so im keeping it low.
Maria, if I lived in Germany I would be showing up every week. You're fun and deserve some quality relationships.
totallynotjessica, if i lived in the united states if america.... I would try to move out as fast as possible, but if i somehow couldn't, i would ask u if ur okinwuth meeting up and then maybe we could mayhaps meet up perhaps <3
Why not become one :3
im trying....
Just the one? Why? Want someone that can relate to you better or something?
,.,.. one would be enough.... im trynna keep things reasonable and.... well not necessarily achievable.... but..... u kno..... maybe possible in some parallel universe kinda thing.
If I can get several of them with my dogshit personality, I'm certain that you'll get there. You're already here, right? Well, most people here seem to be looking for a partner, not a friend, but at least a couple people might be. If you get a fem friend with fem friends, then you can befriend them as well, that's convenient. I believe in you, best of luck!
same😿
that's Kaoru from Sometimes Even Reality is a Lie in the top-right top-right and it's super wholesome 10/10
femboys might appear in pics of cuddles more often, but they don't actually cuddle people any more than cishet normies. reason: https://lemmy.zip/comment/24133220