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Once you've spent an evening holding a feverish baby in the shower while festooned in their never ending deluge of vomit, all those thoughts of not being a "real parent" will disappear.
The first 9 months produce a child, but it pretty much comes out as a blank slate. It's the 9 years after that that have the biggest influence on who they are.
Maybe look into hormone treatments to induce lactation? There are methods to induce lactation in trans women and cis women who have never given birth. I think it's partly hormone supplementation (prolactin is the big one) and some mechanical stimulation (sucking on the nipples in some fashion), but I couldn't tell you specifics.
I've wanted to be a parent for as long as I can remember, but I didn't really realize what that meant to me until I realized I'm trans (also trans femme). One of the things I look forward to if/when I finally have children of my own is being able to breastfeed them. I start tearing up a little just thinking about sharing that bond with my children.
My current androgen blocker apparently has a chance of making you produce buttloads of prolactin, but I dodn't know there were treatments specifically for that. Having the option of breastfeeding would definitely be a huge help.
I have a friend who did it. Was not a fun process but she said it was gender affirming.
My understanding is that they adjust your hormones to match up more with a pregnant woman's levels target rather than just the typical female range. Towards the end of the pregnancy they drastically lower your levels to simulate the hormone crash that happens after birth. And yes, a breast pump would be used to mechanically stimulate the breasts and induce supply.
There's been a handful of case studies but I don't know that it's a super common process, so some endos might be a little reluctant.