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I'm scared of not being the "real" parent (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 2 weeks ago by quantumgenderino@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/lesbians@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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My wife (28 cis female) and I (31 transfem) have recently decided we want a baby but because she is the only one with functional reproductive parts, so the plan is to use a donor, and she'll be carrying the baby. I know it makes no sense, and it's just a brain goblin causing problems, but I'm scared I'm going to end up feeling like she's the "real" mom, while I'm just along for the ride. I'm going to be there all the way along, and it's going to be both our child, but brain goblins gonna brain goblin. Have any of you experienced this/have any words of advice? My wife and I have talked about my fears, and since I started transitioning, I've been getting better at not bottling things up from her, but again, brain goblins gonna brain goblin.

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[–] GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

My understanding is that they adjust your hormones to match up more with a pregnant woman's levels target rather than just the typical female range. Towards the end of the pregnancy they drastically lower your levels to simulate the hormone crash that happens after birth. And yes, a breast pump would be used to mechanically stimulate the breasts and induce supply.

There's been a handful of case studies but I don't know that it's a super common process, so some endos might be a little reluctant.