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So I asked Emma (17F) if her crush that she told me about liked her back and she said "I dunno yet" rather than "I don't like him anymore" so I think I should move on and wait and see if I like her still when she's 18+ and graduated high school.

So I (19F/NB) like this girl "Emma" (17F) that I used to date, but she isn't ready to date until she graduates high school. She's a senior and I graduated last year. While I won't ask her out as she needs to work on herself, she said, she definitely flirts and cuddles with me and for sure likes guys, fictional or real, as she has many crushes on them, but IDK if she still likes girls because she may be still figuring herself out.

Update as I write this: It shows her character with a bi flag on one of her videos with a girl in red song so that's a huge giveaway but I'll still ask so I don't seem like a creep.

so i am a young lesbian in high school. there was this girl i found really pretty and wanted to get to know more in the beginning of the school year, let's call her lynn. lynn is practically a genius, as people say, as she was only 13 when she started high school, and even then, is in all honors and ap classes. when she graduates, she’ll probably be in freaking like calculus ii or something at the age of 16.

i ended up becoming good friends with lynn's boy and girl best friend, "jordan" and "sara" and i found out that jordan had recently (at the time) gotten the courage to ask out this boy "benny" and he said yes so now he had a boyfriend. hearing about this and having a crush, i got the courage to confess to lynn at the end of the day, but because she wasn't in my class, we had no free time together, and i was pretty shy, i did a frowned-upon thing and confessed to her over text.

she said she'd love to be in a talking stage while we got to know each other more, and ended up surprising me by asking me out to be her girlfriend. i said yes, and she promised to make me stuff and buy me things, but also give me love and did none of that. it turns out, she was disgusted by the thought of kissing me [:(], didn't hardly wanna hold hands, didn't wanna tell me she liked or even loved me, and only gave me one gift and that was to win me over. i was the one making HER stuff and buying HER things, like sodas every morning, especially when she had no money of her own.

she eventually texted me, telling me we needed to talk, and told me i forced her into a relationship when she asked me out first, i was just the one to confess. she also said she hardly even knew me and that we should enter a talking stage again, but then said we were just friends and that she never said that. she would never text or talk first, and we eventually just grew apart. lynn said because we didn't connect instantly or form a spark, we couldn't even try to be friends and that it was over. she even scribbled out my name on her shoe and replaced it with someone else's, jordan's and sara's, and that made me sad. i don't know why, it probably shouldn't have made me sad, what she said and did.

now, she is polite yet blunt and while i don't try to be her friend, i only talk to her when she talks to me first. she asks me to be her partner sometimes, but only because she has no other friends in our class together and doesn't put in the effort of being a good friend while i do all the work. she can't even keep a conversation going with me.

but i'm so confused, because sometimes she'll act like a friend and other times completely ignore me. idk...

she has a girlfriend, but before said she's "not lesbian", that she only likes guys, and before that after she broke up with me, said she was aroace. but after a week started dating a dude. and while i wasn't there, and we were dating, she would constantly flirt with jordan's boyfriend and say she was gonna kiss and marry him. according to jordan, she ended up going "too far" with the flirting too, all while i was gone.

she herself is also autistic like me but she didn't like my best friend of like 6 years for having adhd and being "slightly more autistic" because he was "annoying", and she would always talk to him in a frustrated and condescending manner

@lesbians Johanna Elberskirchen was a German #lesbian writer and activist. She would be 162 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Johanna/_Elberskirchen

way back when i was in 6th grade on orientation day, a girl “allison" was seated next to me in my first period science class. we began to chat and quickly became friends and she only trusted me. she gave me her number and we had a sleepover and i went to her house once. the other times i would try to go, she'd say she was busy with sports. now, maybe this should have been a hint or something that she was gonna throw me away, MAYBE, but she did say something about looking for the perfect friend who was preppy, blonde, and popular, looking just like her best friend in her old elementary school. i happened to be none of those things, but she said we could still be friends.

i guess she really had other plans though or changed a lot, because now we barely talk, she doesn't text first, and she doesn't even put in much effort in a conversation. i don't know if it's whether she's a bad texter or if she just doesn't like me.

she and the rest of my friend group started to avoid and even bully me. they already disliked me and said they never liked me and were only pretending to be my friends because i was the "weird" girl and the autistic girl. allison began to hang out with my biggest eighth grade bully, addison (they both had similar names IRL too but i won't doxx their names so i'm using fake ones). addison is, well, slavic like her, blonde, preppy, wears cute clothing and popular.

at first, addison seemed like a ray of sunshine and a very kind, cheerful girl, but she HATED ME, constantly making threats to me because i acted weird and acting in an aggressive or sarcastic tone, depending on the day, and even asked me if we were like dating or something because i'm a lesbian (she's a homophobic straight girl, or at least she says so)

allison is bi or used to be, as she "dated" a boy in 6th grade and seemed to like boys and then dated a girl named "lia", my ex-crush, who asked her out in seventh grade. well, allison became super in denial about her bisexuality as a very religious person with internalized homophobia, so she started hanging out with really christian, popular people i guess.

whenever i ask her something like "we should talk more, do you use [___] social media?" she says "no, sorry, i don't". when i ask how school's going or how her day is, she just says "good" or "it's ok". and doesn't even follow it up like by saying "how about you?" so it makes me wonder if she just doesn't know what to say and is shy like she has been all these years, or if she just doesn't freaking like me. i don't know, i miss social cues all the time. she used to compliment and flirt with me and say we should get married and live together, but now she's completely changed.

"i can make you like sex" (i'm asexual)

"i can make you like men" (i'm a lesbian)

i hate when people assume they can make me like sex, men, or sex with men. i'm an asexual lesbian, i hardly want sex. i feel little to no attraction, and especially not to these creeps!!!

hi, so i had this one friend “allison" in middle school from 6th grade, when she came here, to 8th. i'm kinda wondering whether i should, well, befriend her, or take the hint. i'm autistic so i often can't take hints even if i am a good communicator and an extrovert.

allison and i go way back, being friends ever since middle school orientation day when we started chatting and she only trusted me when we were seated together in science class. she was a little blunt and easily annoyed, though, so i started not to like her and even got jealous of her because she was bi at the time and started dating my at the time crush “lia”.

well, after my crush on lia officially faded towards the end of seventh grade, i started developing feelings for ALLISON in eighth grade when several nights i had dreams about her and ended up unable to think of anyone else but her, get super giddy when i did see her, and had fantasies of being a hero that would protect her from bullies at school back when she was only with the semi-popular kids and got bullied for being an anime fan.

our friendship grew more and more apart when she started calling me a creepy stalker and running away when i’d say hi to her, scream at me some days and be super kind and helpful the next, and sometimes she’d even say we should get married and i could be her husband, but other days she’d reject anything i did, said, or gave to her. she eventually stopped hanging out with me along with the other girls in our group due to them finding out i was autistic, cementing their dislike they already had for me. i knew they disliked me, i didn’t know why, but they were the only people i had as friends that would “let me” hang out with them.

on the last day of eighth grade, she smiled at me and asked how my year was and we sorta made up, but she’s shy and kind of a dry texter and now she’s one of the popular-ish girls, best friends with my biggest eighth grade bully (another popular girl who happens to be homophobic while allison was super in denial about being bi and saying it never happened and also having internalized homophobia), and i asked her if she had snapchat so we could talk more and she said she doesn’t use it. she doesn’t text first nor does she add anything to the conversation so idk if she’s just being polite or what, she will be super dry like mentioned. i don’t even like her anymore like that, by the way.

like, i might be like “hi! how’s school?” bc idk how to start a conversation, and she might say “it’s ok/it’s fine” and not even add anything like “how’s it for you?” so either she’s bad at keeping a convo or she doesn’t like me, and i can’t tell how to start the convo or what to do at all. HELP??

I am certain that I am a lesbian, as I am attracted to women and nonbinary people that consider themselves sapphic, but regardless of expression (masc, fem, or andro). I'm not REPULSED by dating men, I'm just indifferent, though back when I identified as lesbian before, I hated the idea and thought that people being straight was being shoved down my throat as all I heard was "you just haven't met the right guy yet" and all the girls I hung out with only liked men and talked constantly about men so I just felt alone.

Now, though, I'm just indifferent, as I said. They don't really attract me, but I do like male characters a lot platonically and connect with them so when I find a good MLM ship between two male characters I like, I think of myself and my girlfriend.

For example, I don't really wanna be WITH the hot heroic guy in a movie or show, but I do wanna be him and get the girl or whatever. (I'm comfortable being a girl and don't currently fit in with other gender labels though, I am not trans FtM)

Every time I got with a dude, it felt more like I had a platonic bond I could share my interests with at best, or just a guy I could show off so I could talk with the straight and bi ladies about having a boyfriend too. I, to be honest, felt bad for them because they seemed so sweet and I would be turning them down, so I decided to give them a chance and I was convinced I "needed" a man because my straight/bi girl friends would say "I need a man!!" when they were single.

And people could never relate to me, because I'd always wanna talk about the first attractive people that came to my mind: women. They would wanna talk about handsome boys at school, guy actors and characters, hunks, gay romance, etc. but I'd always like to talk about lesbian romance, woman actresses and characters, the pretty girls at school but "too bad they're straight". I'd mainly find sapphic girls I had a deep connection to attractive, though I can form a crush on almost any girl I'm close with at least a little bit and I'm super romantic.

Boys, in my mind, as in guy characters, were always fun to tease, whereas lady characters always seemed like actual beautiful people I'd crush on and get into relationships with.

So yeah, I've concluded that I'm a lesbian. Is this a "canon event"? Can many lesbians relate??

I have been told by this straight/bi girl who turned out to be quite racist (and homophobic, so she was likely but not definitely straight) so I stopped being her friend, but that’s beside the point, that “she was a lesbian too until she met her perfect boyfriend” and that I just hadn’t met my perfect guy yet. I am a lesbian. I’ve tried with guys and I only dated them because I felt bad for them and they seemed sweet. I’m more mature now than to date a man because I like the attention he gives me and feel bad, I an absolutely les (well i like enbies and women)

i'm PAN and proud!!!!!!!!!!!!

(also im enby)

i think this is prob a stupid question for me to ask, but i wonder.

like, i consider myself to be on the ace spectrum because i don’t feel much sexual attraction. i can only feel sexual attraction towards certain people, and only if they do certain things.

for example, i’m kinda into sleeping beauty stuff, embarrassingly, which is why im posting on an alt. i can only really get sexually attracted to someone if they’re sleeping and only if they consent to me being aroused/cuddling them.

besides that, i can only really feel genuine sexual attraction towards people im already dating. and even then, they have to be sexually attracted to me first or be a horny/sexual person. with most people, who arent, i dont get sexually attracted to them and they have to be my partner.

can i still be ace?

Pleeaseee I know people don't like Kamp Koral but COME ON THIS IS SO GAY I SHIP IT SO HARD IN THIS EPISODE/SPINOFF!!!!! Does this count as representation of MLM relationships?? It can be interpreted as a silly friendly/platonic relationship but I don't see it that way...

Nadya, let's call her, this girl I liked, became somewhat attached to me and would spend a lot of time with me. She made a joke that I was her husband and that we should get married and live together, which I took as just that: a joke.

We started to hang out more, Nadya would compliment me a lot (I’d do likewise) and we’d help each other with work, but we could never hang out because she had sports. When i was 14, I realized one night I couldn’t stop thinking about her and even had a dream about her. I suddenly found her pretty as hell.

I started questioning whether or not I liked her, and later realized, “Of course I do!”. I also realized she always seemed to treat me slightly differently than others, but I didn’t know if it was because of my autism that everyone bullied me for or because of another reason. She would be very flirty and touchy with most people, for example, but never me. She would smack their butts and call them "hubby" and "wifey".

She would sometimes be moody, somehow forget when I had partners in the past (she forgot I had a boyfriend), and get especially moody on the subject of romance. I also realized even though she was sad when I broke up with him, she started to compliment me more and be nice after the fact.

She eventually sided with the bullies though and agreed that I was being a creepy stalker, but on the last day of last school year, apologized, smiled at me, and we made up again.

This was a WHILE ago, by the way.

Cross-posted from "Boobies" by @QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works in !cunkposting@lemmy.world

cross-posted from: https://sh.itjust.works/post/57908814

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I can't tell if I'm les or bi. I mean, I feel like I've liked men a lot especially when I was younger, yet lately with all the bad experiences with men and some of them being overly sexual towards me, I can't see myself dating one.

While I do see the beauty of men, I don't know if I'd ever date a man, and mostly I don't find myself attracted towards men. The people I find myself attracted to, even before I know their gender, are always nonbinary masc when they "look masculine", never people who identify as men.

I constantly switch between "maybe I like men" and "I probably don't", which could be me being bi and going through the "bi-cycle", but I also feel like my feeling like I "needed" a man in the past was due to heteronormativity and comphet and every woman around me being bi or straight and preferring men.

I noticed I could never relate to my straight friend who used to bully me, not because she bullied me, but because she would gush over dudes and would hate it when I gushed over women. She also found girls kissing gross but IDK if she still does, we were like 13 when this happened.

Anyway, I could never relate and always wanted to talk about girls and didn't really see men through "rose-coloured glasses" like a lot of girls my age did.

No one can decide this for me, but I need some help...

Hey, Wendy here on the account I’m currently using! I was going to say, well, read the title. I finally decided that I’m bisexual!! I like men and masc-presenting people as well as women and fem-presenting people!!!

It’d make sense why I only date women and enbies and why I only attract them, and why men don’t really appeal to me but most people I know are straight so I was convinced I “needed” a man and adopted their attitude.

The only people I really find attractive are nonbinary people and women

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This summer, my fiancée and I are getting married! I've been gone for a long time and I definitely missed all my favourite lesbians

Hey, it's Wendy. I hope many people missed me during my time away. I sure missed the Fediverse. I'm a lesbian who loves my fiancée

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