Lesbians

im dating my mtf girlfriend and my new ftm boyfriend :3 heheheh

@lesbians Gertrude Stein was an American #lesbian author, poet and playwright. She would be 152 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gertrude/_Stein

@lesbians Colette was a French #lesbian author. She would be 153 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colette

So there’s this Trump-supporting(?) girl who used to be in a group therapy with me and even though these types of people complain about others being offended (rightfully), she just got offended by a girl saying she didn’t like trump.

My wife (28 cis female) and I (31 transfem) have recently decided we want a baby but because she is the only one with functional reproductive parts, so the plan is to use a donor, and she'll be carrying the baby. I know it makes no sense, and it's just a brain goblin causing problems, but I'm scared I'm going to end up feeling like she's the "real" mom, while I'm just along for the ride. I'm going to be there all the way along, and it's going to be both our child, but brain goblins gonna brain goblin. Have any of you experienced this/have any words of advice? My wife and I have talked about my fears, and since I started transitioning, I've been getting better at not bottling things up from her, but again, brain goblins gonna brain goblin.

In 2022 I found a lewd artist on Twitter whose work I enjoyed. Finally, a NSFW artist who wasn’t obsessed with weenies! What a marvellously rare find! I looked into her social media and joined her Discord server, then we started privately messaging.

For a while we hit it off well: she was (seemingly) digging the content that I was sharing with her, and an awful lot of it, too. It was unusual for me to meet somebody who shared many of the same tastes and distastes that I had, so I explicitly told her, ‘This can’t be real. It’s too good to be true.’

Nonetheless, she had a couple of fetishes that bored me. One night in July 2022 she was obsessively talking to me about one of them. I was empty of enthusiasm and I told her in no uncertain terms that I was not into her fetish, but she wouldn’t stop and I did not know what to do besides disconnect from the Internet for a while. That really upset her. I tried to handle the situation as delicately as possible but it proved useless.

I am including our conversation here only so that you can judge it in its original context and decide who was in the wrong here. If you have no time to read it then skip over it.

At one point she told me that I should have simply indulged in her kink, which utterly baffled me. I don’t see the appeal in pressuring somebody to partake in what you enjoy even if she be disinterested. It’s inauthentic, manipulative, and not fun. What’s the point?

The part that really hurt me, though, was when she revealed that she was basically lying when she praised some of the content that I shared with her. I would have been less hurt if she had instead politely declined something that I shared; I don’t expect anybody to have all of the same turn-ons as me, after all.

Unfortunately, this was not the first time that others tried to get me to adopt their turn-ons, but I had to tell this particular one to somebody because of how baffling it was.

At any rate, let me be clear: pressuring others to partake in your kinks is sexual harassment. If someone made it clear that they aren’t into your kink, stop showing it to them! If you aren’t into what somebody else is sharing with you, don’t lie about how you feel! If you follow this advice then I promise that you’ll save yourselves from a lot of unnecessary drama, and the few seconds of fun that you may have pressuring others or lying about your feelings just aren’t worth that.

@lesbians Sophia Goudstikker was a German #lesbian photographer and feminist. She would be 161 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sophia/_Goudstikker

@lesbians Yoshiya Nobuko was a Japanese #lesbian author. She would be 130 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nobuko/_Yoshiya

@lesbians Patsy Kelly was an American #lesbian actress. She would be 116 years old today.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patsy/_Kelly

In person, I try to keep my expectations reasonable. I know that lesbians are just ordinary people without magic powers and most of them probably don’t want a fangirl losing control at the sight of them and begging them to autograph her pride flag; they just want to live normal lives. Since I know that plenty of people find “celebrity treatment” unsettling, I try to act natural, too.




But…


I have another confession to make: the sight of ladies being intimate with each other enchants me; a magic power that they can either threaten to use or activate when they want to hypnotize others and control their simple minds. I can barely begin to describe it. It looks like the best thing in the world; the only kind of magic that there is, or at least the closest thing. That’s why I keep making threads in /c/lascivious_lesbians about giving you extravagant luxuries: there’s nothing that would make me happier than all lesbians living like deities in paradise! They’re perfect!

But… um… should I keep hiding this… perception of mine? While I never planned on introducing myself to everybody as a lesbian supremacist and lesbolater anyway (I am not that socially awkward), I feel like if I ever told this to queer ladies in particular, they’d start avoiding me; it sounds too weird.

so my new partner (im poly and my new partner is genderfluid mtf) is mentally ill just like me. we are both lgbtq (she is androsexual and heteroflexible so im an exception bc im technically fem enby) and i am pan. she also self harms a lot, threatens to take her life, and does drugs from her older friends but so far only weed. she is 14 and a freshman. how can i help her???

i am also 14 and a freshman btw, she turns 15 in july and me this month.

I am kind of worried that by sharing this I’ll unintentionally “validate” our oppressors when in reality this should only make decent people care more about stopping cancer; I really don’t wanna live in a world with fewer lesbians.

• LGB cisgender women may have a higher risk of breast cancer than heterosexual women due to risk factors like fewer childbirths and higher alcohol use.

[…]

The best way to catch breast cancer early is through regular mammograms and screenings, but research shows that LGB women and transgender people are less likely to get screenings than cisgender, straight women. According to the 2021 Out: National Cancer Survey conducted by the National LGBT Cancer Network, around 30% of TGNB people never received a cancer screening test prior to their cancer diagnosis.

Oh, fuck my life.

Sometimes I wish that I could just sleep forever.

I remember numerous months ago when a study came out showing that of the people now identifying as LGBT+, most of them were bisexual. Somebody commented something along the lines of “this kinda proves my theory that everyone is bisexual.” I’ve seen this sentiment before then, though.

I have mixed feelings: most of the people proposing this are themselves bisexual and usually saying it in good faith. I have little doubt that there are more bisexuals than we think, too; they hesitate to identify as such due to factors like stigmatization and unawareness.

Even so, this suggestion still rubs me the wrong way: it invalidates our own identities and implies that we “just haven’t found the right man yet”, like we only need to subject ourselves to dozens of guys (either in person or from photographs) and eventually we’ll win the lottery. There are plenty of other things that I would rather be doing. I suppose that somebody could argue that I must be bisexual because umpteen years ago I found a few guys attractive, but that categorization would be so misleading as to be useless.

What do you think?

(Mirrors. Commentary.)

When you look at that, what does it look like?

It makes me scared—like, I’m…I’m a bit…emotional watching it ’cause that’s…I can’t imagine me being that young in that situation ’cause I know I would have been there. I have been at climate rallies, which is so similar, so I…I know what the…uh…the atmosphere is like, but to be one of those young people in front of so many police, like so many people in uniform: that’s terrifying.

I can see you’re crying.

That’s not mean, too—sorry. [Sic?] It’s scary.

No, I want to say thank you for your compassion! Thank you for your compassion!

But, like, you went through that and people went through that so that my generation don’t have to.

(Mirrors. Also, I should maybe mention that the interviewer briefly mentions child abuse that she suffered, somebody says a slur a few times, and they briefly discuss suicide.)

I then put an ad in The Village Voice in the personals, and got a response from another wom—I got many responses, which was a hole other trip, it was a hole other experience anyway, mainly bisexual women who wanted to have their husbands there. Not what I was looking for.

I can’t believe that this type of BS has been going on for decades!

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/36502972

Hi everyone, my name is CyaraKaira a transgender refugee living in South Sudan.

Escaping from Uganda simply for being who I am. I believed leaving would bring safety but when I reached Kenya the violence followed me. I was targeted because of my gender identity. I was tortured, stripped naked, attacked, cut with machetes and forced to witness the loss of lives within our community. Those experiences changed me forever and left scars that are both visible and invisible.

With nowhere left to run, I fled again this time to South Sudan together with my sisters. We came hoping to find a place where we could at least exist without fear. Instead we are struggling daily as visible transgender refugees. We face discrimination most of the times. Accessing basic services is also really hard due to our visible identities. The current festive season has become even more dangerous especially for refugees and foreigners with frequent arrests and insecurity.

On December 24th our worst fears became reality. Our home was violently raided by an armed group. They identified themselves as military but it was later confirmed they were a rebel group known to the government. They broke into our house and demanded ransom, threatened to take us to the bush and told us they would kill us or make us disappear. For nearly five hours, we were tortured and interrogated. We genuinely believed we were not going to survive that day.

By God’s grace, I was able to call Tasha who immediately contacted a protection officer. The protection officer then involved the police, the chairman and other officials who came to our location and rescued us. We were saved but our lives remain in danger. If such a group could come once, they can return. Our shelter is no longer safe, and staying there puts our lives at serious risk.

Because of this, Tasha helped us escape and relocate temporarily. We are currently staying in a hotel that she paid for but this support ends tomorrow and we have nowhere safe to go next. We are traumatized, living in fear and running out of options.

We are really asking for you help, we need to shift and change location because our lives are really in danger and we are afraid that we might end up loosing our lives. Please any donations will mean a lot to us as we need to collect enough for the shelter. Please consider supporting us through the support link in bio/ Profile.

At the same time, I want to share an important update about my future. I am currently working with an organization that is supporting my immigration and resettlement to Canada. I have already gone through most of the interviews, including the Canadian immigration interview, and the process is still ongoing. It has taken several months but we are hopeful and patiently waiting for the next steps.

I want to sincerely wish everyone a Happy New Year. Thank you to every person who has supported us, stood with us, donated, advocated for us and shown us kindness throughout this journey. Being a transgender refugee in South Sudan is something no one would ever wish for but your support has kept us going.

Thank you for reading, for caring and for standing with us.

CyaraKaira

HI! HOW ARE YA?

i am veronika yelena/elena (вероника елена). i prefer men i think but i dont like dick or anything and i like girls too and boobs!!! hi!!!!!

So, I certainly feel negative about this. My girlfriend had an old bully "Georgia" who was generally a bad friend to her. Georgia said she liked girls on one of her profiles, so my girlfriend said something like "You like girls? I do too!"

Georgia then said she just put that on her profile "as a joke", and also said "I'm homophobic anyway because I'm Christian". She constantly talked about being Christian and had it all over her bio but I assumed she was bi or at least an ally despite her religion.

Georgia also sent threats to my girlfriend and claimed her sister sent them to her. Her sister who doesn't even know her when it was Georgia who was harassing my girlfriend.

Hi, Jessica here, Alex's friends that I talk to said they talked to them and that they're probably not mad and they will text me once they're done with what they're doing :)

Hey, bigender gay/omni person here, I remember being a girl and talking to this one girl. I had a crush on her but she ended the friendship saying she didn't like me and we wouldn't get along, and maybe that was for the best...

Anyway, one thing she said stuck with me. Well I get being lesbian and only liking cis women, not trans women, but the way she said it kinda irked me... am I overreacting?

"I want to date a GIRL. A REAL girl not a boy who wants to be a girl and turned into one!"

I remember when I was moderating a Reddit subcommunity about NSFW all-women clips, and somebody left a rude comment on a butch lady’s submission because of her appearance. She tried to be diplomatic by telling him(?) that “it’s not for everyone”, and I joined in with “Have you ever heard of the expression ‘If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all’?”, but this guy wasn’t having it.

While I think that the rude commenter was a guy, I’ve seen this sentiment from other types as well. When I lurked the nauseatingly toxic L Chat forum, there were anonymous users dissing butch women by calling them cliché or unattractive, saying “I want my women to look like women”, and so on.

Let me be clear: if the femme aesthetic is your personal favorite, then cool. I tend to prefer femme looks myself. But being elitist about your preferences and dissing butch women — as if they all had an obligation to look “perfect” for you — is as utterly unnecessary as it is unpleasant. This may be surprising to read, but not every single woman needs to turn you on! You can appreciate them for reasons other than their appearance! And you can keep your unsolicited feedback on their appearance to yourself! It’s so easy that even I can do it!

I know that I should have let these memories go, but maybe expressing how I feel about them would help with that. That concludes my rant.