anonclare

sorry if this is offensive. im autistic too and just curious. i have come across several people who are autistic making fun of or being rude to other neurodivergent folks, especially those who are autistic but need more support.

a good example of this was my ex-girlfriend “lynn". she hated my adhd + i think autistic friend (he told me he was autistic but then said he didn’t know). she would always talk behind his back on how annoying he was and would snap at him, going “mhm, yeah sure.” whenever he would talk and just being sarcastic.

lynn also, despite being autistic, said i was too weird to connect with and form a bond with and said we couldn’t be friends because we didn’t form an instant bond.

furthermore, my other ex-gf kayla questioned autism/neurodivergence. kayla also told me my autism made her uncomfortable, called me weird for having mental breakdowns and stimming, talking behind my back, and later completely ignoring my messages so we don’t even talk anymore when i tried to be her friend and forgive her.

so yeah, why don’t some neurodivergent people understand what it's like? wouldn’t it make sense for them to?

i only feel sexual attraction towards my partners, and they have to be sexual first. if they’re not sexual people, i only feel romance to them and no sexual feelings. i frankly don’t wanna bang anyone and have never felt like actually doing so until i met my partner, and even then, it’s more out of curiosity and romantic sparks than anything else (i’m super romantic so i’m not aromantic).

i only feel sexual feelings under certain circumstances, and even then, i use it to make myself happy and not really wanting to have sex with someone.

i am sure i feel sexual attraction, like probably towards my partner, but i’d say less so than most people do, perhaps???

i’m demisexual for now which is on the ace spectrum.

so i know this one girl who’s pretty freaky, if you know what i mean, and got mad at me because i didn’t share her interest in gay porn manga, but i just could never get into it. i prefer romantic rather than sexual content, and as a lesbian, i prefer romance between two women.

some people say, especially men, say it’s not okay due to fetishization of gay men and straight women not knowing the queer or the male experience, but someone else said they should be able to enjoy what they want and to say that it’s not ok was “gatekeeping” interests.

my friend is also pretty immature, but it’s ok. like, she thinks women kissing is gross and it “doesn’t sit right with her” but is fine with men kissing, and says women don’t attract her and only has interests and crushes on men but then says she’s bi? maybe she prefers men, idk???

anyway, what’s wrong with it so i can learn better??

so i went on reddit, yes, i know it’s a cesspool, a sewer full of horrible people, but there was this one person whose story i was gonna read, their life’s story and needing advice on how to make friends. but when i clicked on their profile out of curiosity, i saw they had like karma in the -30s. i thought this would either be a troll or someone who was right and just got downvoted because redditors are stupid. turns out, they are, and she got upvoted a bunch for her opinions in a transphobic echo chamber.

she kept saying that trans women don’t deserve to be lumped in with cis women and that they take away women's bodily autonomy, that she’s been raped before and that trans women “take away” the depth of her experiences, and other stuff. she also claims that there are only boy stuff and girls stuff and that only men like video games and computers whereas women like makeup and romance and if a trans man likes makeup and romance or dolls, he is “proving” that he is a woman.

which is just stupid. i looove old tech and i’m a cis woman, wtf!?

she also claims she’s a centrist but this seems very right-wing to me, and she also claims that she wants to be very stereotypically feminine and that tomboys are misogynists and stuff.