I definitely regret not being a banker though
this post was submitted on 03 Jan 2026
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Being a parent is awesome if you want to be one and it aligns with your personality. Our existences are largely shaped by our relationships (I say this as an introverted AuDHD nerd) and being a parent is probably the most significant and transformative relationship in the lives of people who are parents.
However, I know that I have always been a kid person and also always wanted to be a parent. And then my wife and I couldn't have kids for the longest time, went through some more years of pain with adoptions falling through, and then finally had our own biological kid. And not only is he somehow perfect in a better way than we could have designed ourselves, but his neurospices seem to mimic mine so it's like I have a superpower for relating to him and interpreting his issues.
I assume that qualifies me pretty high on the scale of Lemmy users who are very much into being a parent. I'll wear that rank proudly.
With those decades of experience and the satisfaction of how it is currently going, plus all the stuff I learned navigating my mental issues alongside it, I am quite confident saying that having kids is NOT for everybody, and it will NOT fix your problems.
Raising kids is probably a potentially good experience for most people, sure, but in supportive circumstances.
Unfortunately, society pressures people to conform to the norm, and the huge "you are supposed to start a family now" step usually comes right after you were pushed to go into tons of student debt, marry the first person you dated for longer than a year, then top up the debt to get an overpriced house and vehicle or two.
Can we not turn Lemmy into an insufferably smug r/childfree, full of teens/20 somethings hating on sprogs?
I didn't have kids until my late 30s, never had pressure from anyone to have them and certainly didn't get upset on the super-rare occasions that folk asked if I was thinking of having them.
Live your life, make your own call on your life decisions and don't allow yourself to be pressured by anyone. Having children should be your decision and yours alone, and ultimately it's noone else's business.
But to hate on kids is not healthy, and should never be normalised.
This is less childfree and more "every woman wants to be a mother of course!!!"
Like want to get your tubes tied? Nope we're not gonna do that because then you can't be a mother!!!
I'm purposefully exaggerating so you get the vibe, but this is a real problem facing women
Don't want to hear people who are happily childfree? Then don't read the comments on a post from someone defending their decision to not have children.
When did I say that? Of course people can be happily child free. It's just a shit analogy. Perhaps I should have ignored it. Lesson learned.
In the amount of time you spent to write that comment you could have blocked this community 10 times over lol. Not every space should be catered to a specific person.
I'm a relative Lemmy newbie and have a newbie question, hope you don't mind. I access Lemmy primarily through the Sync app on Android. This community is https://lemmy.world/c/microblogmemes, yes? I checked the "about community" information about it and didn't see any mention of childfree. Is that more of an emergent aspect of the community?
I'm just an old fart trying to stay relevant and up-to-date as I can. Thank you in advance for your answer.
It's just this one post.
A lot of people are commenting on this post, but it's not a trend or anything
Communities usually have guidelines people follow but it's up to the mods to enforce them. If they don't think a certain meme is bad or worth removing then they'll just let it exist even if it's not specified in the community. With that in mind, the other guy could have just ignored the community or the user instead of complaining.
So by that rationale you basically shouldn't comment on a meme you think doesn't really work or you have an opinion on? If that's the case so be it, but it seems mildly oppressive and totally boring.
Yes that's exactly what I meant by my original response to the other guy. You've captured my intent completely, bravo.
Honestly wasn't aware I was posting on a childfree community - I access Lemmy through Boost, so just interact with whatever comes up in my feed. It does explain the heat I'm getting though 😂
There is zero indication anywhere this is a childfree community aside from the bitching in this thread.
It's rather poorly named for a dedicated childfree community.
Yeah. After a single post defending the child-free lifestyle, the community should change its name to reflect it.... /s
So close to seeing the point.
Or even just moved past this one post....
Plus if you really regret not having children you can always become a foster parent/adopt.
On the other hand: what if you do have children and you regret that? Start killing?
Hansel and gretal moment
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I never had kids, but being a school bus driver has made me regret not having kids. Being a school bus driver has also made me thrilled to the fucking core that I never had kids.
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