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I don't get it, why wouldn't they want their partner to say nice things to them?
self hatred does things to people
I hate myself so I'm well aware, that's why I want someone to say nice things to me.
some people want it but also can't handle it because they don't believe it
We just gotta keep whispering "You're worthy of love because you are love" over and over until they internalize it.
I appreciate your candour about how you feel about yourself, because I am also someone who struggles with self hatred and craves affirmation, so seeing comments like yours gives me a nice sense of solidarity.
We're our own worst critics. We need to try to remember that.
Compliments make me uncomfortable because I only really recieved them when I was quite young, so I have a habit of associating compliments with being a child. So compliments make me feel infantilized.
I also struggle with self-worth, so I also often times feel like I am undeserving of compliments. This causes me to not trust compliments as being genuine. I have a bad habit of assuming compliments are backhanded or are manipulative, or just overall just not genuine.
What the hell, this is exactly how I feel. I don't have a partner though so I don't know how I'd behave in this case. I hope that, if I ever find someone, I can at least trust them enough to not question the sincerity of their compliments.
This is why you need to articulate your limits.
Difficult if you don't know them yet.
I need a safe word!
How about "cracked?" (i.e. "Cracked the safe open...?" Yeah, I'll just see myself out...)
Imagine how great it would be if you had a dom who could think of your best interests and nag you to do the right thing oh wait we just reinvented parents with extra steps.
Maybe your parents, you lucky sumbitch.
My parents never had my best interest in mind. All they cared about was letting up appearances to the outside world.
sexy par- ope. Nope. No no. Nevermind.
I found an ad hoc Indian Auntie online who does that for me 😂💜
When Dom said drink more water I thought it was going somewhere else.
This is how a lot of healthy D/s relationships go, though.
Easy, just respond with: "Make me"
Do... Do you WANT to be water boarded? This is how you get water boarded.
Feels ineffective to get you to actually drink water.
Now, stuffing a funnel into your mouth, that might do the trick.
I think they very well might. It’s not exactly an uncommon kink.
I've been a bad, bad little boy. I haven't achieved any of the goals on my five-year plan. My gym membership has lapsed and I don't think I've done any laundry in over three weeks.
What are you going to do about it? French maid's outfit? Very kinky. And... degreaser? A sponge? Okay, what are we planning here? These are not the sexiest rubber gloves. Why are you pointing me towards the oven like that?
"Oh no, I'm stuck! If only someone was there to help me~"
Pineapple! Pineapple!!!!
You know, gym equipment is similar to dungeon furniture with enough imagination... (unironically i have a weird thing for training people. not a fetish, just a thing.)
I've always had a Thing for admiring ppls' hand shapes from an artistic pov, isn't a fetish, it's cool when we find stuff we like
I need a domme like this.
Follow your dreams, bitch!
Am I doing this right?
drink more water. Yeah you like that? You fucking hydrated removed?
Meatloaf! Meatloaf!!!! MEAAAATLOOOAF!!!!
Drink more water
I swear to fucking god, I can be in the middle of chugging a gallon jug and people will say this.