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I'd rather get something like this instead of seeing it die off slowly and then not getting a straight answer or getting blindsided. Just rip the bandaid off—be honest about what's going on. If you can't learn to handle these situations and handle your emotions in a reasonable manner, then maybe you shouldn't be dating yet...
"Damn girl, I don't even get a severance check?"
"If you require any further information, please check our FAQ section before inquiring"
One girl dumped me after a few dates, nothing special, and she was super apologetic. She said she'd understand if I called her a fucking bitch and blocked her. I was so offended by that comment. I'm not one of those insecure guys who flips out when they get rejected. I can handle being dumped! I can't believe she thought so lowly of me! Fucking bitch!
Self fulfilling prophecy?
I'd prefer her to just tell me she didn't like my petrified broccoli tower.
Hey, it's polite and a response. Pretty good in my book
I got a message soon after I started talking to someone where they said they wanted to see where their current thing went with somebody they'd met a few times, and like, yeah, thanks and I respect that. it seemed genuine. I was happy to get that message instead of chats just disappearing when it seemed like it was going well.
For women, bluntness and honesty is treated as assault.
For men, retaliation is unremarkable and unnoticed until it's too late.
Y'know, I'm fine with it because it is at least professional. Better than getting ghosted or them being rude about it.
The last thing I'm looking for in a relationship is professionalism.
Well this person is no longer in that relationship so that works out.
Trying to prevent you from getting threatening and nasty due to the threat to your "masculinity".
It’s hurtful that they think I’d even be threatening and nasty. That they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster. It makes me feel like I have no value.
You don't know that anyone who responds this way actually thinks this. There are a limited amount of ways to communicate that they're not interested and over-explaining and hedging their niceness would also just backfire. They gave exactly as much explanation as needed. It may come off a bit stiff because the tone is neutral (and they only use "I" sentences - speaking only what they know to be true instead of projecting with "you" sentences).
You may want more validation and that's fine. But nobody owes it to you. You say "they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster" - but you could be doing the same thing in assuming their motivations when they only speak neutrally.
Is it really all that surprising that when
someone would end up sending this?
Jesus Christ, try and get into other people's shoes from time to time.
Honestly yeah, this is better than ghosting so good on her
at least they sent a message, good on her.
Thats because they are afraid you're going to lose it and verbally, physically or mentally abuse them.
I had a friend call me one night because she said no to a guy and he started threatening to kill himself. Like damn. That's some insane guilt-tripping, manipulative bullshit right out the gate. And this wasn't the first time this happened to her too.
It would be so hard me not to say "do it pussy."
My mom did this in high school when a guy who was stalking her threatened to kill himself.
He's still alive, over thirty years later.
What a coward.
It's happened to me. I called his friend and they came and collected him and his stuff.
That reminds me of one of my ex’s, she did far worse things but that shit still fucked with my head a lot too.
"men are scared women will laugh in their face, while women are scared it's their lives men will take"
So, ghosting is bad and evil. At least tell the man you aren't interested! Men are suffering due to ghosting! But also, don't put him down when rejecting him. Men have to suffer so much rejection, so their ego is easily hurt. Let him down gently!!
Oh, you did? Well let me mock you for being TOO nice and diplomatic about it 😂.
Damn I'm so happy I'm not dating anymore. Feels like no way to do it right.
There isn't a way to do it right. Dating doesn't work. People are too garbage for it.
Fair enough statement about some of the comments here, but at least the original poster in the screenshot is taking it in good stride like you're supposed to with a polite rejection.
I think this person broke up with ChatGPT
There are scattered reports of women using LLM bots in the dating process.
my experience is that the language is far more overtly psycho than this.
Rejection is the antecedent for many behaviors, which are often dangerous. So we try a lot of ways to make it impersonal, kind, soften the blow…etc.
Merger rejected.
Men: crash out when they get ghosted
Also men:
Yeah I was going to say if you're going to get rejected then I'd far rather a response like this than just getting ghosted. In fact as far as rejections go, I can't think of a better way of doing it.
What do other men expect, a consolation blow job?
When two people are both trying to give bad news nicely they end up sounding similar.
Find an HR person to begin with. Sign off that you watched the videos and stuff like this won't happen.
Be sure to watch the videos.
