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[–] theuniqueone@lemmy.dbzer0.com 31 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Trying to prevent you from getting threatening and nasty due to the threat to your "masculinity".

[–] CommissarVulpin@lemmy.world 13 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

It’s hurtful that they think I’d even be threatening and nasty. That they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster. It makes me feel like I have no value.

[–] noretus@crazypeople.online 12 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (1 children)

You don't know that anyone who responds this way actually thinks this. There are a limited amount of ways to communicate that they're not interested and over-explaining and hedging their niceness would also just backfire. They gave exactly as much explanation as needed. It may come off a bit stiff because the tone is neutral (and they only use "I" sentences - speaking only what they know to be true instead of projecting with "you" sentences).

You may want more validation and that's fine. But nobody owes it to you. You say "they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster" - but you could be doing the same thing in assuming their motivations when they only speak neutrally.

[–] threeshortwords@lemmy.world 1 points 46 minutes ago* (last edited 40 minutes ago)

You may want more validation and that’s fine. But nobody owes it to you.

To repeat the exact point of your comment, you don’t know that the person you're responding to actually thinks this or deserves this characterization. It is extremely uncharitable.

To make my own uncharitable characterization, It sounds a lot like bullying someone with therapy speak for stepping out of line.

assuming their motivations when they only speak neutrally.

And yet not a single response can be seen in this vein on comment after comment from the clear majority repeating over and over that the woman is protecting herself from bodily harm by speaking this way. Nobody seems to be telling them that they're making assumptions. Only this guy gets this response.

In conclusion, as naive and simple as it sounds, let's just be fucking nice to each other. Even to those you imagine deserve no respect or 'special treatment' (which is usually code for respect).

Internalizing that last bit is something I really wish more worked very hard to do. And it is very hard. I'm probably screwing it up here. But I'm trying. For what that's worth.