I agree with the fact that it's easier for everyone to share the same name, especially when one parent travels alone with the kids. It's such a faff (with good reasons) if you don't have the same.
The issue is more that it's often assumed that the wife has to take the husband's name by default, rather than it being ultimately a choice between the couple.
I don't judge anyone making whatever choice they have to make to survive, especially wrt using AI given how it's shoved down everyone's throat.
I do have little patience for someone who comes all guns blazing, calling someone an idiot over that very fact, and dares talk about empathy after belittling the OPs "liwwle feelings".
I have zero patience for the actually rich people who force that shit on us and would love not to see stupid infighting between people who suffer and are alienated from it.
This is pretty much what my initial, admittedly too snarky, response meant. Now either you're trolling or this is, for whatever reason, a sensitive subject for you. In both cases I don't see the point of discussing that further and apologies if I hurt you.