ow my cat never seated on my lap ever and she also don't like a lot of hand touching, the only time she demands pets is when I'm pooping and with my feet, no hands. She spends her days stalking me and talking and meawing, but touching is nono
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Cats can be so different at a shelter or even at a foster home than they will be when they get settled. I remember my sister was told the cat she got was "a little playful" like if you made an effort, but twenty minutes after the cat settled in she was flipping her shit over a string toy. Even years later, sick, tired, and elderly, she'd dredge up some energy to bat at a toy.
It really can be like night and day. My cat was so incredibly stressed out when we brought her home that she kept "fawning" all over us for the first two weeks. Lots of excessive side rubs and a general clingyness to every interaction. She needed constant touch.
After that she began to settle in and became much more herself: playful, independent, and only sometimes in the mood for a lap or a cuddle.
mine was a big cuddler and lap cat at the shelter. got her home, she's an occasional cuddler but is hyperactive when you get a scarp of papre for her to play with
Not wanting a cat doesn't mean won't care for a cat. I said no to another cat because I'm not prepared to care for it on top of everything else I've got going on.
This whole "didn't want a cat but is secretly a softy" thing needs to die.
I fully understand the boundaries and limitations side. There are a lot of people who label themselves "not a cat person" or "not a pet person" and don't interact with animals, based on this preconceived notion, and then are surprised when they enjoy it.
Not being able to take responsibility for another soul is reasonable.
Usually it’s more like “Doesn’t want to spend time and money on a pet” and/or “Doesn’t want to be sad when the pet inevitably passes on”
The first one I get it, but the second... Then don't anything, why live when there is eventually suffering? Thats just a sad and misserable way to think damn. And there is actually people reasoning like this, why 😭
I guess the reasoning is:
Pets usually die before their owners do.
In contrast, (human) children lives on and usually if things go well, parents never have to watch their kids die, and its kinda their "legacy". Pet's don't really have much of a "legacy", I mean other than working animals which can have a huge legacy of like maybe saving lives.
(I'm not saying I agree, just explaining their views)
This whole “didn’t want a cat but is secretly a softy” thing needs to die.
Just because it does not accurately describe you does not mean it doesn't accurately describe many people
No but it’s also encouraging people to not care about others limitations.
For example I love cats but I am too disabled to care for one.
Agreed, taking on the responsibility of caring for a pet and giving them the best life you can is a situation that requires a firm yes from all parties. Especially with how expensive everything is these days, pets are not cheap.
When my cousin came to visit me for a week, she literally yelled "no!" and hit my cat when he jumped onto her lap.
A week later, she said "I think I want a cat." Now she has a cat.
Ladies and gentlemen every parent from the 80s.
Sometimes they just haven't met the right lap yet.
LOL, get chosen, boyfriend
I remember my friend telling me he hated cats, whilst he was cradling mine in his arm like a baby and stroking his head.
was his surname "addams" by any chance?
"i despise cats. soft, cuddly. disgusting"
She just wants some of them dank clouds 😶🌫️💨☁️☁️
I was wondering what they were holding, is it a vape then?
Yes it is